Boyfriend off on a lad's weekend...?

Question

Okay, so, my boyfriend mentioned going to Butlins (LOL!!!) on a lad's weekend with his workmates a couple of weeks ago.

I trust him going because I know his workmates are decent and I love him so I know nothing's going to happen but it's the fact that the first time I'd heard of it, it was only an idea.

Then, last night, he mentioned it to his mum and I said "Oh, so tickets have already been bought?" and he said yes.

I didn't even know anything of it. I don't even know when he was going to tell me but I know he thinks there's nothing to properly tell because he isn't going to do anything bad but he didn't consult me.

I do want to let him know what's wrong but I'm not sure how. I don't want him to feel like I don't trust him. Even though every girl feels just a little bit insecure about her boyfriend going away for the weekend and what would happen.

I'd just like it if he had a bit of appreciation for my feelings. We're not even having our own holiday this year yet he's doing this with his mates.

What should I do?

Answer 1

if i was u id go away on a fun weekend somewhere else with my friends

Answer 2

just tell him how u feel... tell him that u feel a bit uneasy... that ..... and u should have trust between eachother... and that u were a bit surprised when he bought the tickets and didnt tell u .... just be honest.... it always works for me!

Answer 3

I'm not British so I don't know what "Butlins" is. I think you just have to trust him because you gotta act like it doesn't bother you and that you are secure even if that's not true. You don't want to seem insecure and give him more of a reason to act an *** on that "holiday"

ETA: My man also sometimes doesn't tell me where he is going with his friends, especially if it was a last-minute thing. Don't worry guys like to be spontaneous I don't think he was being sneaky in not telling you about it.

Answer 4

If there is no trust why are you dating him?

I did read you question but it is still a matter of trust.  Give him a phone during the middle of the holiday and see that all is fine.  But dont phone every five minutes of every day he is away.  

I went to amsterdam and all I got was phone call after phone all from the missus, I turned my phone off and that caused her to go into overdrive.  I had 50 voice mails and hundreds of emails, killed the relationship rightly.

Answer 5

what is butlins?