Boyfriend on parole?

Question

Ok so my question is a Parole question. My boyfriend is on parole for robery. dont ask me how he got put on parole for that because me or his parole officer can not find out this reason he was in juvie and got parole? who knows anyways he is on parole. and i am 17 he is 18 just turned 18. we met awhile ago and he got violated because he had dirty drops and was living at my parents house with out COMPLETLY clearing this with his parole officer. he is doing time, he has been in jail since may 7th and is getting out Aug 12th. the problem is! i am moving out of state and i want to know if he could go with me and my family. he can not go back to his moms because his mom is a felon and so is her boyfriend and they both are drug addicts. now his parole offier already came and looked at are house and it was approved as a safe place for him to live and his parole officer is a nice guy. and now because of finacial diffculties we are moving to wisconsin like 5 mins off the boarder and i now live in ILLINOIS is there a chance he can move with us? not to mention he has a new parole officer now then the one that violated him.I NEED TO KNOW!!!!

Answer 1

Most likely he is going to have to ask for permission to live in another state. Since he hasn't finished his parole, it's highly unlikely he'll be granted the request.

Even if he comes to visit you, he's going to need permission to leave the state. If he doesn't, he's in violation of his parole and can be sent to jail.

Answer 2

Dump him he sounds a real loser

Answer 3

No, he won't be able to go with you if he's on parole.   They are going to want to make sure that he is being properly supervised during his parole,  so they will want him to stay in the state where he is released and do his parole there.  Since he has been in trouble in the past, he already has some what of a history of getting into trouble and not following the rules.  He has shown them that he is in need of supervision, since he can not do it all on his own.

They will want him to be supervised in the state where he violated, so they will keep him in Illinois to serve out his probation.  

I'm sorry that things are not working out the way that you wanted them to, some times life has other ideas for us.  Maybe it is what is meant to be, so that he can find out what is really important to him in his life.  

So that if you mean a lot to him then he will start doing all the right things in his life to make it better.  So that he can learn how to stay out of trouble and be able to be with you when his parole is over.  He will have shown both him self as well as you that he wants to become a better person.  A person who has grown up and has learned to except that there are rules that he has to follow in order to have a great life.

Maybe if he wants this bad enough he will stop doing the  wrong things in his life, he will start making better choices.  He should be able to prove to both him self as well as to you that he's not going to live his life in and out of jails or prisons.  If he loves you then he will work hard and do all the right things to be able to be with you later, when he has gotten him self on the right path in his life he will be some one that you will be able to be proud of.  He will also be able to be proud of him self as well, but he has some work that he needs to do in order for it all to happen.  It is possible for him to change if he wants it bad enough he will make it happen for him self, so that he can be with you and be the person who deserves to be with you.

I wish you all the best.  You deserve to be with some one who isn't going to be in and out of jails or prisons, all through out their life.   Life is hard enough have to deal with, with  out having to worry about the person that you love always getting sent to prison or Jail.   God Bless you.

Answer 4

Well, I have two responses to your question.  The first, I am sure you have already heard which is, dump the bum.  Your boyfriend sounds like one that puts his high above the needs of anyone else including his own freedom and given my experience in law enforcement will mean a lifetime of pain and heartbreak for your boyfriend and anyone that loves him.

That being said, there is a process for transferring supervsion out of state.  It is called Interstate Compact.  I only worked with Interstate Compact in the capacity of a probation officer, meaning people that didn't go to prison, but got probation instead.  So, I am not entirely sure how the process might work for a parolee.

However, I do not believe that he would need to be married to you.  Usually; though, Interstate Compact does require some close relative in the other state to help support and get you settled in order to be approved.  So, if that is not the case, it probably will get denied, as the receiving state has to approve his entry.

Usually, Interstate Compact is reserved for people visiting a state that get into trouble.  Think of a guy from Florida, getting arrested in Arizona for drug possession.  It would be crazy for Arizona to demand that he quit his job in Florida to do probation in Arizona.

The only problem with Interstate Compact is that it is a relatively lengthy process and can take several months to get an answer, even a denial.  Any application would have to be initiated by his parole officer, and only upon his release from prison / jail.

Personally, I believe that the separation may be good for both of you.  It will give him a chance to work on what he needs to work on, such as: staying clean, taking classes, and finding a job.  If he can't manage that on his own, what makes you think he will be able to manage a relationship?

Answer 5

Sorry to be judgemental but you should get rid of this clown who will likely lead a life of crime and misery. You are just 17 and this is how you want to start your life?

Answer 6

The only person that will be able to answer this is his parole officer.

Answer 7

No, even if he was your husband and he was in jail, they would not move his jailing to another state because you move. It doesn't work that way.

Answer 8

No, he wont be able to move with you.