Boyfriend problems..... i dont know what to do here..?

Question

i dont feel like hes giving his share in the relationship. i always call him because he never calls. i wait hours on end. friday he was holding me telling me he was going to miss me while i was at my moms. and all he does is yell at me while im on the phone with him because i shouldnt have called. he told me too. so i felt like c**p. now, he is barely texting. everytime we talk, he says he has other things to do and he has to go. like his friends are over. stuff like that. and it hurts. i mean you can find SOME time during your day.. dont ya think?

oh and weve been together for 2 years. and he still tells me he loves me. and he says when he says something like that he means it. but when hes mad he says he doesnt care if we break up then regrets saying it later, and holds me and apologizes.. saying i shouldve known he always loved me.

and friday i took him a gift and some cupcakes and as soon as i walked in the door he told me i had to leave because his parents would be home soon & i couldnt be there. but i was leaving anyways. ever since then, its been DOWNHILL! i dont know what to do. i really love him. but i feel like he doesnt love me as much. what do i do?

Answer 1

i think that he is starting to take advantage of you and your love for him because he thinks that you will always be there. you need to talk to him about the situation and if he doesnt step out then you need to walk out,good luck :)

Answer 2

The boy is either confused about how he feels or he is a drama queen to keep you.  Either way-he's messed up.  It worries me that he yo-yos you that way...it's a form of abuse.

I suggest the next time he breaks up with you-don't let him come crawling back and apologize.  You should seriously check out how the abusive cycle is.  He's playing on your sympathies and you should get out now before it gets worse.

Answer 3

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But this IS abuse, and you should get out now. Seriously.

I had a boy act like this towards me before. I was afraid of him yelling at me, too. Then that changed towards being afraid he would hit me. He never did, but boy, he sure looked like he wanted to sometimes. It just got worse and worse until he broke up with me. Then a couple months later I found out that he had been cheating too.

It hurt so bad, and I should have left him a long time before, but I couldn't let go. But it's not gonna get better, no matter how much you want it to. So just move on.

Sorry. :(

Boys can be mean. I'm sorry he's hurting you like that.

Answer 4

move on. Today.

Answer 5

Get rid of him. you deserve someone that cares.

Answer 6

Then he has a weird way to show you that he loves you.

I think he is cheating on [hope he isn't] but you need to talk to him about that. Or either one day he is going to break up with you. He probably doesn't let go of you right now because he wants to have someone always with him or something.

Answer 7

well i don't know btoh sides of this story but from what you have said i would suggest you rethin being with him... I understand love.... And after the amount of time with him you may very well have strong feelings .... But my question to you is this,... do you love him or do you love the idea of him... meaning most of us are so eager to find THE ONE in this world and get that life started... that the minute a guy NO MATTER HOW HE TREATS US shows interest we get hooked.. we become the wonderful girlfriend who treats him great and lets him treat us horribly and think that it's ok he gave me a reason why he yelled at me or why he has to go or blah blah blah....  The one thing we hardly ever do is step back and look at both sides, the pro's and con's of everything going on in that relatioship and see if it is really what we want or if we are holding on because we feel we can't get better..

If you were sweet enough to take all of what he has thrown at you so far ( like you stated) with the little grain of salt it seems you took it with...Then there is definitely better out there for you and you need to really think about this... let him go and spread your winds there is some one out there who will really appreciate you making him cupcakes and who won't yell at you one3 minute and say he misses you the next... it's real and it's out there just take a step back and you'll find it...

but first spend a day doing for you what you know you deserve and just breath then look at e3verything and you will see what you need to do....

Answer 8

Break up now! he is not matured enough yet... else you will inherit that mean and insecurity and make some other guy suffer, move on quick, and stop thinking you can change him

Answer 9

it sounds to me that the bads out weigh the goods.

translation: your bf is being a jerk!! dump his @ss and never look back. 2 years is a lot of time, but there are other fish in the sea.

Answer 10

Go introduce yourself to 3 men.  TODAY!

Answer 11

ditch the jack a$$ and go find a new guy that actually has a little bit of an emotional stamina seriously but have fun finding a new guy and im amazed youve put up with this for two years holey c**p