Boyfriend threatens to kill himself?

Question

Problems have surfaced between my boyfriend and I. I've attempted to end our 2 year relationship about a month ago and when I did he threatened to kill himself. I still care about him so I agreed to not break up with him because of that.

He's said over the years that he would take his own life if I ever were to leave him. We're not at a stable point right now and I think it's time we end the relationship. I am afraid if I do that he will attempt and achieve the act of killing himself.

What am I to do?

Answer 1

i no exactly how you feel. my boyfriend did the same thing. i asked one of my friends what to do and they said that even though i still cared about him and i didnt want him to do that or even think of that that it was better that i ended it than lead him on and i did. and the only reason he ever said that was so he could still go out w/me cause he knew my weakness. just try to talk to him and say i dont want you to do it but it would just hurt you more if i kept leading you on. trust me i no its hard it took me a really long time to be able to but you can do it. ill be praying for you i hope everything works out

Answer 2

You need to tell someone about these threats and you need to break up with him. You're not ever going to be happy if you're kept in a relationship you don't want to be just to keep him happy. You're not responsible for his actions and you can't feel bad for them no matter how much you care for him. He's bascially guilt-tripping emptionally blackmailing you to keep you in the relationship. It's pathetic and really sad that he'd say this and you deserve much better, I'm surprised you lasted for 2 years in this relationship

If he's threatning to kill himself then he's obviously not a stable person and you're in danger too then.He needs help, he's putting you in a terrible situation too and you need to get out of it. I'd recommend calling your local suicide hotline or just calling the police.

Good luck, my best wishes go to you

Answer 3

I agree with what else was said, just get watch on him. Some people juts bluff looking for ANY reason to keep their girlfriend with them but he could be telling t he truth too either way being hospitalized will either help solve his problem if he's real or teach him a very annoying lesson about how lying can create a really annoying problem for him.

Answer 4

This is the oldest form of blackmail in the book. You should call his bluff. Why should you stay in an unhappy relationship just because some guy with attitude problems cant take no for an answer. And the odds of him carrying out this threat are zilch.

Answer 5

So...let him kill himself, its not like you will get into shitt, or its not like you killed him

Answer 6

right, if you're not happy then you need to get out of the relationship.

i am going to tell you something but don't be afraid that it will happen to you - i got with my first boyfriend at a young age but i was with him for two and a half years. he started to abuse me and i got out of the relationship - he said that he had changed a few weeks later and cos i loved him, i got back with him and it all happened again, so i left him. near christmas 2006, he told me that he'd kill himself if i never got back with him and obviously, that got my attention but my friends told me he was just trying to control me and not to go back to him as i deserved better, so i never. it come christmas day and i was so worried as he said that was when he was going to do it, he ruined my christmas but in the end, turned out he was fine and nothing happened. come new years eve, he asked me to get back with him again and i said no and he told me he'd kill himself but no way was i going to let him ruin my chirstmas and new years so i ignored him and got on with my night and woke up 01.01.07 to hear that he had killed himself - my parents, his friends and many others blamed me and said i could have stopped him but i wasn't going to be miserable any longer just to keep him happy.

sweetie, if you don't like how it is going with you two then don't hang on just to make him happy cos it will be like that forever and you deserve to be happy! it's likely that he won't kill himself; 80-90% of people that say they would kill themselves if their partner finishes with them, don't actually do it, they just say it to get attention and to scare the other person so they'd stay with them - he will control your life until you get out of it and sweetie, if he does kill himself, it wouldn't be your fault, it would be his fault and you need realise that - just make yourself happy! it was hard for me but i knew i couldn't go through all the pain just to make another person happy - there is only one person you can count on in life and that is yourself! you bring yourself up in this world and you die alone in this world so look out for yourself as much as you can - i don't mean that you can't look out for others but ones-self is ones most important.

Answer 7

Don't worry. Those that threaten suicide rarely go through with it. It's those who bottle their problems up, and keep their fears to themselves that are at risk.

He can't love you very much if he thinks it's appropriate to pressure you like this.

It's perfectly safe to dump this looser, now!

Answer 8

He's trying to control you by doing this. Tell his family, tell his friends, agree with them that a suicide watch and therapy for him is necessary, and end the relationship. You shouldn't have to put up with this kind of creepiness.