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Boyfriend victim of sexual abuse...what do i do

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okay lets starts at the beginning. my best friend was adopted out of foster care by this old women. i met this girl after being adopted and we've now been friends for three years so naturally i spend alot of time at this lady's house. well awhile ago this lady adopted three boys.(all brothers) well i never really had gotten the story on the boys but the seemed to adjust very well. the one is now my bf . he never wanted to talk about the past neither did his brothers so i never asked. well one day i was helping the lady file through some papers and i found the boy's files. i really shouldn't have read them it was an invasion of privacy i know.but i looked and aparently the boys's mother and father were drugy alcholics. so the boys were put into foster care were all three were sexually abused for years, finally the three boys ran away together and all got put in YOC until they were adopted by the lady they now live with. well my bf walked in seen me looking at his file, he grabbed the paper and ripped it up. we never mentioned it again. but i just i feel soo bad for him, and i want him to know he can talk to me and i want to help him but i don't think i can. he said the past is exactly that the past and he'd rather leave it there. i just don't know, and about a month ago we started having s*x and it feels wierd cuz he buries his face in the pillow behind my shoulder and doesn't say anything during s*x. i just i don't know what to do. i love him and i don't wanna bring up something that's gonna hurt him.

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  1. No -- You are not equipped to help him. When he is ready, your bf will need to get counseling from a qualified Therapist.

    Don't badger him to talk about something that you should know nothing about in the first place.

    You are so right - You should not have been snoping!!  

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