Boyfriends Dad Died...?

Question

I duno wot to do!

Like, i dont wanna do the wrong thingg if you no wat i mean?

Like i dont wanna Say anythink just incase it might be the "wrong" thing to say... Or dont wanna do the wrong think, like give him a kiss and cuddle, incase he dont want 1...

Or just too talk about it? be there for him and that, or not to talk about it lol,

Or i dunno wether to buy him anythink to cheer him up? but then he might not want thatt lol

Any one got any suggestions? Like wt too say and stuff like that

Dunnnno :S

Thankss x

Answer 1

Don't buy him a present because that could be seen as a celebration thing.  Don't try and cheer him up because he needs to go through his feelings at his own pace, and it may be seen as trying to get him to "snap out of it".

Be guided by him and what he tells you he needs.  Just tell him you care and ask him what he needs.

For my bf, it was to let him talk about the person and his anger at what happened, and to take him out of the family home for a break etc.  To help him rationalise his worries of having to be the new head of the house.  To let him sit round mine and watch mindless TV for a distraction sometimes.

Answer 2

Tell him what you have just typed. If you are in a serious relationship, communication is key, & he will need you now more than ever. Even if he says he needs a bit of space, he still needs the comfort of knowing that he can come to you as & when he wants for a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 3

OMG iam so sorry for your boyfriend but the best thing you cud do is be there for him no matter what but dont bring that subject up he needs your support and let him be sad he needs to let go his emotions dont try to cheer him up too much just think of what would you want if anything like that happen to u just be there and cry with him you his shoulder to cry on!!

Answer 4

Hi I am so sorry for you and him as you both have to go through it together, and all I can say is if you are in a good relaltionship you can tell what he is feeling and know how to act when he is like he is ?

Just give him time and he will come to you with his feelings but dont push things and just tell him that you are so sorry and that you dont know how he must feel and let him know that you are here for him when he needs you,

Answer 5

wow, that is hard...be completely honest with him and tell him exactly what you just shared with us, that way he knows that you are trying to help him during this difficult time! this is actually a good time to make your relationship stronger by being there for him when he needs it most!

Answer 6

Listen be very careful of the words you say. Never say i know how he feel unless you really know. I can only say be by his side, hold his hands, and cry along with him. Be there for him emotionally and psycially. Ask him if he needs his space or if he want you to stay with him. Show him love and comfort, because if he never need you before he needs you now.  

Answer 7

You don't have to say anything. Just express your concern for him and let him know that you are there for him. I does not matter if he wants to cry, or talk or just sit quietly, be there for him in his time of need.  

Answer 8

just be there for him but give him space if he needs it

Answer 9

pray for his departed soul.

Answer 10

Words don't matter.   Just be there, caring.

A cuddle may be the best help.