Boyfriends Money Woes?

Question

Okay in a nutshell, br used to earn like 40k before we met, but now he only earns just over 12k. He lost his other job. He's finding it really hard without as much money, I said to him money isn't everything but he said it is.

I don't know how to make him feel better? I gave him a hundred pounds this month to help out (he didn't ask for it btw) but he's still depressed. I don't know how to make it better. My view is that money isn't everything? But to him it is everything. :(

Answer 1

leave him, wait for him to realize what he has lost, and then get back together with him.  

Answer 2

tell him this from a US Marine Sergeant:

   His self worth means alot, if he believes he's  c**p then all he'll produce is c**p, iif you have him to believe that he is "KING" then he'll develope self confidance, feeling like he's everything , and everything to you  is paramount

Money buys responsibility, the more you have the more work, like getting  to work providing and being accountable. Justification of who he is promotes good character, therefore he'll begin walking around with his chest where it belongs  tell him what he does matters to you, himself, and 1 day, his family, especially his father, then theres what god thinks about you, except thats TMI- too much information

Answer 3

To men, money and success defines who they are. They think they are failures if they can't provide for the people they care about. That's why a lot of men don't get married until they are older, they're more financially secure and know that they can be provider in the family. It's very old fashioned, but it's true. The best thing you can do is encourage him to find a great job and support his decisions. Telling him money isn't everything is only making him feel worse, because he doesn't agree.  Give him time and space and he'll figure himself out. The best thing you can do is just be by his side and support him.

Answer 4

You need to reassess your values together.

Many manage quite well on 12grand.

If he is so obsessed with money that he has no time left for living, the price is too high.

Answer 5

well sooner or later you 2 might marry....then pool your funds....

Answer 6

help him searching for another job !!!!

that is all what u can do!

Answer 7

Money will be a big part it, but so will his ego.  Sounds like he needs to work on his career a little.  Maybe he should also get a second job (ie; a bar job to a) give me a bit more money and b) to keep him occupied.

Answer 8

Well all he can do is search for a better paid job.

You can help by looking on the net and the newspapers if you so desired.