Boyfriends baby blues leaving me P**sed off !?

Question

hello ,

im 16 and my bf is 19.my boyfriend of 2 months is usually a very nice person . since i have been with him right from the very beggining i have always said if i get pregnant without a doubt i would keep it , my family is very stirct on abortion and so am i and we dont believe its right. i know i couldnt live with myself if i had one.but the other day he asked me again what id do if i was pregnant , we had been talking about my friend being prenant , and i said keep it. and he went off his head at me.he was like 'why couldt you of told me that before i came in you' and i was like i did tell you before we even started having s*x. he was saying all this stuff about it only being a pill and why couldnt i just take it and get rid.and he was too young for a kid and he doesnt want a F**king kid. all this. then he became very agrresive and didnt talk to me til the morning.he made me feeel really bad , espeshially as there is a chance im pregnant (he doesnt know). he just ranted on about what he wanted.do you think im right to be pissed off or is he just being a normal male ?

Answer 1

I was wondering why this was in the pregnancy section till I read the second to last line....you'd better tell him...the longer you wait, the harder it will be.

Answer 2

Two things spring to mind, you should not be having unprotected s*x and secondly dump this horrible bloke. If he doesn't want children then it is up to him to take precautions not leave it to you. He sounds a nasty piece of work and you deserve better.

Answer 3

Find out for sure before you tell him. A lot of time in young women's cycles there are abnormalties that may be mistaken for pregnancy.

Until you get married you will probably have arguements with any partner on the best policy for an unexpected pregnancy. This is the risk for sure. I dont need to tell you how to prevent it. We have all been there and caught up in the moment. My best advice to you, is wait to have s*x with someone. 2 Months is pretty early, you are still getting to know each other.

I felt like I always rushed into having s*x with partners. When i was 16 I was also dating someone that was 19. I didnt really know him all that well, although we graduated from the same school. I made it a point to really develop feelings for him before we had s*x. We had told each other we loved one another way before s*x became an issue. We waited about 6 months before we did, and I am so glad. I kept telling him i didnt want it complicate things. We are now married 7 years later and are expecting our first.

All i am saying to you is, he is a typical teenage male for saying what is needed to get some action, It hurts to hear that, because you want to think he is genuine, but he definitely isnt the guy long term.

I cant tell you what to do, but if you find yourself not pregnant, break up with him. You dont need someone that is going to yell at you for something that is equally his fault. He doesnt share the same values as you, and Good for you not thinking of abortion as a form of birth control.

I never had a strong feeling against it until the first time i saw that baby on the ultrasound screen. at just 8 weeks old it was the shape of a human and moving around.. Its amazing how much of a miracle it is! So that is good that you are already there.

good luck to you, sorry for the rambling

Answer 4

to answer your question, yes you should be pissed. He knew you weren't on the pill, you didn't use any protection and he came inside you....therefore he should take the resonsibility just as much as you and not blame you anymore than he should blame himself.

That being said.....if neither of you wanted a child why didnt you either abstain from intercourse or use protection? This whole thing could have been avoided with better planning. I recommend you think thru the possible outcomes of your actions before you have s*x.

Take a test if you miss your period and talk to you BF.  

Answer 5

Well he clearly didnt want kids yet you both were irrisponsible by not using protection - what can i say?? Your against abortion and he's stuck with a baby he doesnt want.  What a perfect way to bring a child into the world.  

Answer 6

You shouldn't even be having s*x at 16 really just wait.

Answer 7

Hi

First off are you using any contraception??! Always best esp if you have only just started seeing someone.

Most males don't like to feel like they are being backed into a corner (or trapped - depending who you ask) about something, esp something as big as a baby so would guess that is why he has suddenly reacted this way. You are both so young to be worrying about things like this as well, which maybe another reason for his reaction ... there is plenty of time to settle down and have a family. If you think you might be pregnant you need to talk to someone, not necessarily your bf or even a family member, maybe a doc to get some advice on what to do next.

Fingers crossed it works out alright x  

Answer 8

No you're in the right here, be pissed off!  You laid down your feelings from the beginning, its not your fault he's too immature to either listen or go buy a packet of condoms!  If he doesn't want the risk of pregnancy there are things he should do, its not just a woman's decision!

Answer 9

16 is tooo young for such a serious issue... s*x.. people take it lightly, but it is far from it... This is one of the most serious things you will deal with ever and you giving it little thought makes the situation worse.. You're 16, have known this guy for 2 mths and ALREADY having unprotected s*x with him whether you were trying to get pregnant or not??  Putting that aside, STDs should be the #1 worry since I'm almost certain that neither of you requested testing prior to beginning a sexual relationship.  

At any rate, yes you should be a bit PO'd I would be too and furthermore, you this is an inclination of what type of parent he would be, should the situation arise.  Pay attention to the signs and and find someone who will be supportive should you two become pregnant.  

Answer 10

well id get rid of him!

if ur not pregnant you can meet someone with a bit more sence

and if you are pregnant your baby would be better off without him

wishing you lots of luck

Amy

Answer 11

I'm sorry but he sounds like a d**k, if you are pregnant and if he isn't there or won't help out get child support from his ***.

Answer 12

WELL first of all i'd like to Say that what a MESSED up little girl you are!

weren't you 25 weeks pregnant about 3 months ago!?!? http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...

Stop TRYING to get pregnant, your a CHILD a baby deserves more than to have some immature teenager as its mother. besides I'm guessing it'll be the tax payer who feeds it.

Concentrate on YOUR life first and not just s*x.

Answer 13

I think with such strong views on abortion you should not be having s*x at 16.

If you get pregnant its your fault. From the sound of your question you're actually TRYING to

Answer 14

Wow..ok FIRST of all...your 16! Why are you having unprotected s*x?? You shouldnt even be talking about babies!  Use condoms and get on birthcontrol!

Now for your boyfriend....hes an ***. Abortion is NOT a form of birthcontrol! If he doesnt want to have a baby he needs to wrap his package!

Answer 15

if he didn't want a kid then you guys should have been using protection! you are way to young to have a kid, if you are having s*x then you should get on birth control. and why are you having unprotected s*x at 16, have you ever heard of HIV, HPV, and STDs? i think you both need to grow and and be responsible