Boyfriends brother is driving me insane?

Question

I live with my boyfriend of 4 years and his brother. My boyfriend is 23 and helps clean, keeps things clean, and does an awesome job. His brother on the hand is horrible. He's 27 and acts like he is 13. We went on vacation for my birthday and all I asked him to do was wash his dishes and feed the cats and dogs. I came home to a sink full of dishes, my dogs had no food or water, but the cats did. I asked him to wash the dishes today and he just walked away and left. His room stinks horribly. He brought a kitten here he found on the side of the road.. he won't buy it food, I buy it, I've came extremely attached to the cat. He doesn't scoop the litter box, I do. He didn't get him shots, I did. He takes his clothes off after work and leaves them in the living room!! One of the cats knocked a plate over and broke it and he walked right by it out the door. He does pay rent, and it is MY house. I'm terrified of kicking him out, I don't want to cause conflicts because his parents don't want him to come back. I'm spending my only day off of work cleaning up the house because he didn't do anything, and I'm tired of having to do this. I'm also a huge "no foul language" kind of person and he's constantly saying the "GD" work, and the "F" word even after I have told him not to do that, he continues to use vulgar language. I'm at my wits end, please help! :(

Answer 1

talk to your boyfriend about it! if anyone should kick the guy out, it should be his own brother. i mean, theyre family, they can fight over stupid c**p like that and still stay friends ya know?

i dont know how your bf can be ok w. a guylike that in your house (even if he is his brother, they are total opposites!)

hope your problem gets sorted out asap!

Answer 2

This sounds like a backwards living situation that is bound to cause conflict. 2 is company and 3's a crowd. In what world did you think living with your other halfs brother would work?? I could NEVER do it, and i dont think many people could!!

First off, you need to sit your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, tell him everything you just wrote down and say that you cant deal with it. Tell him you feel it is putting a strain on the relationship and if he is living here too, he should pull his weight.

It may be better if your boyfriend spoke to his brother, But both of them need to know that this situation cannot continue. If he is going to live with you, you need to set some ground rules and he HAS to follow them or he will be out.Dont even worry about his parents. He isnt their problem at the end of the day, theyve got rid of him and now he is bugging you. Dont be a doormat. Speak your mind and let him know he is bang out of order. Good luck!

Answer 3

GET RID OF HIM. talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, im sure he will understand. ANYWAYS you might not want to start a family with your b/f while his brother is living with you thats going to make things even harder for you.