Boyfriiend Confusiion...PLEASE Helpp :(

Question

Okaay well heres the storyy..

ima freshmaan in highschool and ivee been dating this boy since the beginning of gr.8.. soo about a yeaar now. Well i like him a LOT and we'vee been through a lotta things, hes been my first kiss and what not and first for a lotta things..he just makes me feel soo special and i believe he truly does love me backk and cares. Whenn i started going out with him he really showed me who my true friends aree becuase a lotta girls liked him and got mad at me for datting him. Well the thing about him is that hes very straightforward and up front so if you do something he doesnt like he will tell you straight to your facee.. so he has quite a bit of haters. He gets himself into a lotta trouble and he's veery thuglikee if you know what i meaan. Well im just worried if when i go to high school this will cause a lot of drama for me? and if i should really let that effect our realationship.. so what if people say hes this and that and soft and what not? Should i just stick with him because i love and care about him and he makes me happy or just leave him causee of what other people think of him.. is that right? iunno im just soo confuseeed. Please help.

Answer 1

If you really want to be with him it shouldn't bother you what other people think of him. Unless you are looking at this for an excuse or reason to dump him.

If things are going well and you are happy stick with it. If not tell him

your concerns. Sorry but this does not sound like a long term relationship. Live for the moment and enjoy it now.  

Answer 2

you stick by him, if you love him.

if you can't hack it, and care about what people say and think.. you get out cause no one wants a partner like that.

Answer 3

Do you think he is thinking the same thing about you? What if he wanted to break up with you because someone told him that he could get a prettier gf? Or they told him you were weird or a nerd, do you think he would stick up for you and tell them of your good qualities?

Already many people do not like him because of the way he is, do you want to break up with him because of it? Well you have not yet. How would you feel if you broke up with him so no one would associate you with the way he acts and he got a new gf and the guys you dated didn`t treat you any where as good as he did. Then you would want him back, but he knows better than to go back with you because the next time someone said anything about him, you would break up with him again. So he is out of your life forever. What about that drama?

If you think you want to date other people now that you are in high school, then just be honest and tell him. Tell him you want to see how it is and that you will not get serious with any of them. See what he says.  If that is not the case then just stay with him and see how things go.  You are allowed to be wary or insecure about life and people and how to act or react. That is what you are going through now, the formative years. If you cannot talk about all this with your bf, then you are not as close as you think you are.

Answer 4

He sounds like a really nice lad!!

Well if you love him as much as you say you do sweetie then why should you care about how other people think like, i use to be in a school were hardly no one liked me for going with this guy, people said they were going to kill me and **** !! really if you love him then do whats right but then again friends come first but if your friends get jealous over you going out with a lad and they don't talk to you they really aren't your friends !!..Going though school was the hardest thing i ever done i had to watch my back ever were i went but, at the end of school i look at the girls who hated me and told them i new use were all talk !! boyfriends come and go !! friends true friends stay no matter what!! just do what you thinks right huni I'm sure you'll do the right thing :)..xx xx

Answer 5

Where is the problem ? You love him, he loves you, why should you listen to anyone else ? It sounds like he is kind and caring, some people wait their whole life to have what you seem to have. Appreciate him for the good person he seems to be.  

Answer 6

Don't be a dummy if u really want to be with him, stay with him don't tell me ure those kind of people who care with people say and think....well if you are don't!!! you love him you stay with him by his side period.

and later on if ya both decide to split up well then too bad maybe it just didn't worked out but don't let it be cuz of certain people!!  Trust me on this if i would've listen to those kind of people i wouldnt have married the love of my life!!! even if im 18 we have been together since 9th too!!!!

Answer 7

It sounds like you both have very strong feelings for each other, so by no means should you leave him because of what other people think!

People will learn to get to grips with your relationship with him.

However if it really starts to bother you - what people think leave him, you should be happy, not worrying constantly.

People are bound to talk about it, thats what they do.

Good luck in highschool and try to put it to the back of your mind.  

Answer 8

ok well it would be completely wroung for u 2 dump him bcause of wat other people say. you don't need to listen to them, they don't know him like u do. u know how he really is.  

Answer 9

Honestly you shouldn't care what other people think about him, if you really love and care for him you should stick with him xx