Boys and girls??opinions needed!!?

Question

how long would yooh have to be going out with a boy/girl for yooh to have s*x with them??

any reasons for this??

any friends rushed into it and something terrible happened??

(opinions allowed fully)

Answer 1

Well, for me it would be awhile.. i woulnd't rush into having s*x with a guy .

The reason for it is because i want to get to know the guy, and be in a loving , secure and stable relationship before even concidering having s*x.

And yes, iv'e had some friends who have been used for s*x - leaving them feeling really hurt.

Answer 2

When you both feel ready (Just because others are having s*x don't mean you have 2)If you rush things and have s*x well then your gonna regret it later in life

Answer 3

a while.

there is no rush.

you should wait until you are POSITIVELY in love with the person. and MORE importantly that THEY are in love with YOU. You should be totally honest with each other and be TOTALLY comfertable with that person.

i have TWO examples. First the GOOD ONE. My ex and I were dating for about a yearish, and i had told him that I would decide when I'm ready, natrually He had BEEN ready, but he was OK to wait.  So then I told him i was ready. I talked to my mom about Birth Control..about two weeks later he broke up with me. Which sounds really bad. But we didn't have s*x. The point is he loved me enough to just not 'do me' and leave. We broke up because things were 'too serious' and we both wanted to 'enjoy' highschool. we have plans to get back together.

BAD ONE: My sister is 16 she started dating a senior who I nor my friends nor ANYBODY at school approved of. But she 'loved him.' So I gave him a shot, I was nice. TWO MONTHS into their relationship, they had s*x. Which also meant they did EVERYTHING else before that. Four months later, he broke up with her because 'he changed.' But the odd thing is, that she was grounded so they didn't see each other for 2 weeks.   The bad thing is that SHE loved him, but does he really love her? Obviously not.

You can wait. Do other things first. And go slow with those things as well.

Just enjoy each other's company.

Good Luck =]]

[sorry if that's long]

Answer 4

A very very long time.  There's not rush.

Answer 5

Well time doesn't mean anything when your dealing with something as important as s*x. What matters is love and commintment to any outcomes that becomes. Also, you have to be fully ready for it. Also does your partner. Any complications could happen durring you having s*x. during anyone having s*x.

Std's.

Pregnancy.

Are the two main things.

So you really have to make sure you love that person. and know that person and also have  a commintment to that person. If you have to wait till marriage so wait. If you think you are ready for any outcomes available do it now. by make sure your not getting pressured into anything.

Your quesstions"

Till I showed a commintment. When I was in love. When I was completely ready.

I don't want to ruin my life.

Yes. they have a two year old cause they got pressured into s*x and now raising a two year old alone. having to pay everything herself since a boy won't take responsibility.

Answer 6

If you're young enough to think of yourselves as "boys" and "girls," you're too young to have s*x.  s*x is for adults who can handle the responsibilities and emotional issues involved in an intimate relationship.  Kids who rush into s*x almost always regret it. Even if they're careful and don't get pregnant, the emotional consequences are overwhelming.  Girls, especially, tend to suffer.  If you have to ask this question, you're not ready.  Please wait.  When you are mature enough, and in a relationship of love and mutual respect, you will know that it was worth waiting for.  

Answer 7

well... i know a few girls that 'were in love'...

and are now known as the school s***s.

Answer 8

STOP SAYING AFTER YOU ARE MARRIED

Dont rush into it but dont wait till your married cus what if you never get married  A HUH! You 'll know trust me

Answer 9

i would say at least six months dating and knowing them for longer than that. not sure why... guess 6 mths is what i would class as beginning of long-term

interesting question  

Answer 10

After when you are legally marrid

Answer 11

After marriage. :D

Answer 12

definately a long time but it also depends how old i am because at the moment ( i am 14 )  i dont want s*x

and the reason is that if you rush into it after u find out that the guy is a ****hole then u made a BIG MISTAKE

i no a  few friends that have had s*x and one of them turned in to a drug addict because of that

also as someone above said that if they are young enough to be classed as boys and girls then they are definately to young because they cant make proper decisions  

Answer 13

i always thought 6 months or longer.

but then i fell in love with this guy and we did it after 3 months..when i was 13.

i guess i probably did got kinda fast, i ended up getting pregnant when i was 13 with his baby, but had a miscarriage.

i am still with him [:

Answer 14

personally, i plan to be with a guy for at least 6 months before i even CONSIDER having s*x with them.

and then i have to think about if i really love them.

but i mean, im a virgin.

i want my first time to be special and with someone who i really care about (and who cares about me)

:DD

Answer 15

well before i met my now husband, it would be a good 6 or 7 months. seeing as to i met my husband when i was 17, i only dated two guys before him. one, i dated for a year 1/2 and we had s*x when we had been dating almost 7 months and the other i dated 9 months and we had s*x also at almost 7 months. HOWEVER my now husband and i only dated 2 weeks before! haha, we just couldnt resist eachother =D

Answer 16

Well, a long long time probably. I'd prefer to get married or at least live together first.

Answer 17

well you both will know when its the right time!  besides there isnt a particular time anyway you jus go with the flow! a relationship aint just based on s*x! theres more to it......

Answer 18

when you both trust each other enough to

use protection

Answer 19

wait and see if u really like him or prefeerably love him

and trust me there no need to rush

Answer 20

There is no set time before you have to have s*x with your boyfriend/girlfriend.  It's a personal decision.  Some people have s*x on the first date, some people wait until marriage, some are inbetween.  I personally wait until I am very comfortable with the person I am dating and I am able to trust that they will be there for me if something should happen.  Usually I have to also love the person as well.  That does take a few months before I reach that point of s*x (one time it was 10 months), but I still fool around and such before that.  It's just a personal choice.

Some of my friends have rushed into s*x, but they haven't had any bad outcomes, but they do know how lucky they are.  It's their choice, just like my choice is to wait until I really do know a person.