Boys are too complicated, what should I do??

Question

The quiet guy (M) I posted about earlier and one of my Best(girl)Friends (C). I knew I was falling for M, once I got him talking to me, I tried to not, but it didn't work. I found out he liked C, it didn't affect me much. It wasn't until yesterday, that he had my other friend A to ask C out for him, and she said yes. I've tried to be happy for them, but I had to quit talking to M, b/c when I did it was more technically flirting with him. C is always telling how great she thinks M is, and I have to listen while it kills me inside to do so b/c I already knew. I never told C that I liked M, so she doesn't know. Last night I cried over it. Crying, Over. A GUY!! How pathetic is that!? M got used to me talking to him, but today I couldn't look at him, hear his voice, or hear his name, w/o being near tears. He noticed I was avoiding him, I know M did, because he stopped me after class and said, "Why won't you talk to me? Usually you talk to me. Why are you being so mean?" It practically killed me to hear that!

I guess I didn't know how hard I fell until I hit the ground...

What can I do? It's hurting him, It's hurting C, and it's hurting me. I want them to be happy, just not in front of me. I don't care if I hurt me, just not them.

How should I handle this?

Answer 1

I really think you should just get over him. But start talking to him again, so he doesn't think you're mean. That is actually kind of sad. You should tell your friend you like him, but don't go after him and tell her you won't. Don't let let a guy get between you and your friend.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, right now I think your dilemma is just that you like someone, but you also want them to be with someone they feel comfortable with and happy to be with . Apparently, if it's hurting both of them, they don't that you like M, and when you feel it's right enough to tell them, then you feel that relief and it won't hurt as much. If you don't care that you hurt yourself, then you might as well help them out and tell them you're happy for them but you don't know how to take it all in. Always, put others before yourself, but not too much as you're taking the hurt from them.

I had this same problem myself before. This guy and I always liked each other but he was a flirty guy, though I always took it the wrong way when he was with girls. So, we still like each other (I think), but don't assume things too much. If you know that you'd flirt with the guy, just try minimizing how much you talk to him and find ways to keep up a conversation that won't suggest that you are interested in him, if you don't want to flirt.  

Answer 3

Just keep telling yourself that your over him and start looking for a distraction boy. If your friend C asks you about it just tell her that you liked him but your happy for her and him but your having a hard time being around him without feeling thing and you feel bad about that because you dont want her to think your trying anything on her boy. She will understand as long as you make it clear you are working on getting over him and you are happy they are together and you will not be trying to gt him from her.  

Answer 4

just tell them like whats going on.  that will make you feel better and they'll understand.  

Answer 5

tell C how you feel. tell M too. <how you feel about him> I am in the same sitautaion exceot i fainted when he stoped me after schol and when i woke up he was sitting right there, i was sooo imbaresd i fainted again...but enough abot me!  

Answer 6

date chicks  

Answer 7

become a L*****n

Answer 8

well. if it is meant to be between you and the guy it will happen.love always finds it way. have faith. && be strong. people are dying to see you fall.

Answer 9

tell them both how you feel

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Answer 10

Here's from the guys point of view: We're not that complicated.  If I were him, I'd want answers. I'd talk to him in private (at a quiet spot at school, at a park, etc.) and tell him how you feel. If he's smart and understanding, he'll totally understand. If he's a thick-headed idiot like a lot of other guys at my high school, he wouldn't get it. Just calmly explain to him. Then, well, move on. I know it's hard, but life goes on. You'll eventually move on to someone else and maybe things will work out for you. Also, you may want to tell "C" about what your thoughts on this situation but this depends on how close you two are and how you approach and talk about your thoughts to her. Also, it's not pathetic to cry over a guy. It hurts to really like someone and watch as your, or one of his or her friends likes that person too and ends up with that person (I'm speaking from personal experience). And no, I'm not g*y (there's nothing wrong with being g*y. I'm a supporter of that), I'm just understanding.

I hope I was able to help.

Answer 11

You should go for the "OTHER TEAM"

Answer 12

As you said, boys are too complicated.

As an adult looking back on high school life, don't even bother with them. It isn't worth it.

Answer 13

i'd stop gossiping about it and actually do something, like telling him whats on your mind. you'll feel better and it'll be done with

Answer 14

Heres the solution to this primitive situation.

I was under a similar situation like this before, and i will tell you what should you do about it. Avoiding or ignoring anyone never helps but worsens the situation. I say you still be friendly to both C and M, and act like its not bothering you, but i know it is bothering you. I know it hurts, but focus on something that can deviate your mind and attention from this C and M mess to yourself by working out, calling other friends and going out for a movie. More friends around you and working out helps a lot and goes a long way. In the beginning it will be a little hard, but all these feelings will go away from M . Because ignoring him would make him think that you like him and give your friend to be more upset at you. You shoudnt ignore anybody because ignoring somebody is really immature and lame.