Boys.. what the h**l is wrong with me?

Question

i reckon im a pretty desent person.

i have blonde hair, blue eyes, straight teeth, nice lips, average height and weight.

good personality, not shy.

but i think there is something really unattractive about me, or something wrong.

because i havent had a boyfriend since kindergarten.

and its hard for a teenager when you just dont have anyone into you, and you get hurt all the time, and friends have boyfriends, and everyone is changing and moving on but ur left behind.

maybe im to fat? or not pretty enough?

or not S****y enough or some c**p?

help me, tell me what is wrong with me, and help me do something about it.

Answer 1

Hey Girl;

I know its hard on you, but have you ever really tried showing your interest in a guy?

Teen age boys are really too bashful to make the first move.

Ask your girl friends to introduce you to some of their boy friend's cousins, or friends....

Go on some "blind dates" that your girl friends have arranged for you. Ask them to do this for you...

Go now.

Make the effort

Answer 2

Don't get down on yourself.

I was the EXACT same way, all through out junior high, high school and one year of college. No boyfriends.

It sucked a big one.

But then i stopped looking for it, not that I was actively looking. But I guess I stopped expecting it to come.

Thats when i found out I was intimidating to guys! And I didn't even realize it! Maybe thats you too?

Well now, I'm 21 and I have a boyfriend who is absolutely amazing and we've been together for a year and a half.

Don't feel like you have to get with some guy or be a S****y girl (someone your not) because you feel lonely or all your friends have bfs.

Wait till that right guy comes along and sees you for beautiful you.

You will be so happy you waited. I know I am.

Cheers Beautiful :)

Answer 3

dont change to a s***k, some guy will like you as you are. also dont say your too fat guys really dont like it when you say oh im too fat and starve yourself etc.

Answer 4

It may be  your vibe. You said you think there is something unattractive about you. Its probably not your lack of good looks, but your lack  of confidence.  Guys sense confidence and they are attracted to it.   If you were  abused by anyone, sexually verbally or physically (and I am not saying that you were) you need to get some therapy.

Answer 5

Where is your pride?confidence?self esteem? Just because everyone else jumps off a bridge does it mean you have to follow suit?

Answer 6

SWEETHEART THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU ITS THEM  HAVE COME ACROSS SOME BAD ONE THAT DONT UNDERSTAND. TO BE HONEST A LOT OF MALES PICK ONES THAT ARE S****y AND RUN DOWN LOOKING BECAUSE THEY FEEL THAT THEY CAN RUN AND USE THOSE UP MAYBE YOU ARE TO MUCK YOU PROBABLY DRESS RELLY NICE KEEP YOURSELF WELL PUT TOGETHER AND THEY GET AFRAID BY THAT THEY WOULD HAVE TO WORRY THAT OTHERS WOULD WANT YOU AND YOU HAVE HIGH STANDARDS THEY FEEL IT WOULD TAKLE A LOT TO PLEAE YOU VERSUS THOSE OTHERS BE YOURELF I KNOW ITS HARD BUT YOU DONT NEED NO ONE BRINGING YOU DOWN IN CONTINUING YOUR EDUCATION WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT YOU WILL HAVE PLENTY OF CHANCE AND OH YEA I HOPED YUOU HAVE CHANGED YOUR APPEARANCE SINCE KINDERGARTEN LOL

Answer 7

hmm, linking a pic would help or else I don't see how this could be answered o.O

Answer 8

it's not that you're fine. don't stress i mean i was in the same situation, then come to find out that i intimidate that girls and they don't know how to approach me to tell me they like me. i'm friends with most of them now only to find out that they were way into me back then but couldn't tell me. so maybe it's just because you're too good looking and it intimidates the boys.

Answer 9

First of all I just want to tell you that you are probably a very beautiful person with a great personality. You just haven't found the right person that you connect with. If you are a teenager I would try to focus on other things such as your school work , hobbies, sports, and hanging out with your girlfriends. I know that sounds like boring advice, but it will be better for you in the long run. When I was in in jr. high and high school I never once had a boyfriend. I don't think it had anything to do with looks, it just wasn't as important to me and I honestly don't think I was ready for a boyfriend at that age. I am now 25 and married. When I met my husband 3 years ago it was at a time in my life where I wasn't even looking for a guy. It happend very unexpectantly. I may sound like a dork to you but let me tell you one more thing. All of those other girls my age in high school who were dating and having s*x just because they thought they should, well I have seen some of them now and there lives are not the greatest. They had kids with guys who aren't even around anymore, some of them never finished school, never went to college and are now on welfare and working minimun wage jobs. They missed out on all the fun I got to have in college and being single with no kids to tie me down. So my advict to you is to go and have fun. Enjoy your life now before you have a bunch of adult resposabilities. Build some solid friendships with guys first. And of course be yourself. You will get a guy some day. Most teenage guys are too immature to have a meaningful relationship at that age anyways. There hormones are raging and all they want is s*x. You need someone who will truly value and love you. I know it is hard when you see other girls around you with guys, and even sometimes truly painful and downright depressing. But remember there futures may be bleak if that is all they are concerned about. Stay strong!