Brain and body don't agree. . .?

Question

i've got a bit of a situation. my ex (who is a guy) truely loves me, and i love him too. but at the same time a male's body completely repulses me. i also just finally learned how great even simple things can be with another woman. to make matters even more confusing for me, i'm pretty sure the girl i'm seeing is about to end our relationship. she still has an odd sense of shame about her sexuality. i don't know what to do. i don't know if i should listen to my screeming body and find a woman i can love or if i can do the easy thing and get engaged with my ex.

Answer 1

I think this isn't necessarily about your sexuality but more about having patience. Right now, the male body repulses you. That might change in time. Just because the woman you're with now has issues about her sexuality doesn't mean you won't end up meeting a really nice woman who is totally okay about having a relationship with you.

You do sound confused but I think giving yourself time is the best thing to do right now. If you get back with this guy, then you might end up ruining it because you wished you'd gone with another woman or stayed with the woman you're with. You're best off giving yourself time to learn about what you REALLY want before you end up hurting yourself, the guy, and the woman you're with.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Um simple. He is not, nor does he deserve 2nd best. Tell him and see what happens. As for the girl be patient its a hard choice to be comfortable with.

Answer 3

This answer may seem strange, but work out what the strongest feeling is. And go with it.

Answer 4

If you're repulsed by a man's body, why would you want to spend your life with a man? If you are truly attracted to women, then you should find the woman of your dreams, not settle for you ex.

Answer 5

you should go find the woman of your dreams

if your repulsed by men it's not fair for either you or you ex

Answer 6

DO NOT marry this guy because you will both end up unhappy and regretting it in the long run.  You can love someone but not be IN love with them and if you are not into s*x with a man then you will have a lonely, unfullfilling marriage.  No s*x shouldn't mean everything but it is for sure a huge part of life and a marriage.  You will be cheating him and yourself if you marry.  Keep the love you have for each other and stay friends.  You will both find the one that you're meant to marry.  

Answer 7

Personally I would find a woman you can love and loves you.  Forcing yourself to be intimate with someone is not the best idea.  I'm not sure if you love him like a friend but being you aren't physically attracted to him I believe it's just friendship love.  There are many beautiful amazing women out there and if you sell yourself short and settle for a man (even if you do love him) you may be missing out on your true happiness.

Answer 8

Don't be afraid to enjoy whatever desires your body gives you. If what you want most is the pleasure of another woman, then it is completely natural, ok, and wonderful for you to accept that in yourself and to explore it with someone special.

Life is short. Love who you will. Enjoy whatever chance for happiness you can find.

Answer 9

How can getting engaged to someone who repulses you be the easy thing?!?  Besides, if you love him as a person, you would not do that...he doesn't deserve to be treated like that.  Why can't you just be patient and wait for the right woman...why do you have to be in a relationship?  You don't have to be attached to another person to be whole : )