Break up or just confused ??

Question

Well i got married when i was 18 now iam 24 with one lil 5 yr old lil girl,my wife doesn't really like to party but i do i like to go dancing ,drinking just having a good time , but my wife just wants to stay home, is these just a phase that iam going thru ?or should i just let these partying out of my system??

Answer 1

phase.. hopefully

Answer 2

wow that is such a hard problem because if you don't party you will feel trapped and if you do party then life at home probably will be a mess.  which is important and can you find a happy medium?

Answer 3

When you were 18 you should have been partying with a condom on. Than you wouldn't be in this situation now.

Answer 4

u need to think about what is most important

wife and child or

partying

ure wife and child need support and love

Answer 5

it is definitely a phase... i think going out once in a while if you're not a party person is okay but why don't you bring the club to your house some weekends it can be just as fun and a whole lot cheaper. What will your wife think about that?

Answer 6

stay with her and have hot s*x

Answer 7

I think it's a phase.  You got married really young and had a child at a young age as well and now you're at the age where it's normal to want to party.  I don't think it's bad if you want to party just remember that you have 2 people that love you at home and you'll be fine.  

Also, you need to make yourself happy but also understand that you put yourself in a situation where someone is depending on you and you have to be responsible for that.  Don't party too much and don't come home wasted.  Be responsible for your decision to get married and have a child but don't neglect something you enjoy because if you're not truly  happy, it'll show.

Answer 8

Let the partying out of your system, man. She might not like you drinking. And your setting a bad example for your little one if you get home late, she'll wake up asking where have you been and you'll have to lie to her, and maybe to your wife too... AND DONT GET DRUNK, never know what you do when your drunk. Hope this helps for your decision!

~KayleeBug

Answer 9

It could be that you are feeling that you somehow "missed out" on being young and carefree - in a way you did because of the choice you made.

Now you are married and a dad, don't "miss out" by making the bad choice of trying to recapture your young carefree days.  What you have now is far more important, valuable - and fragile.  You go out partying and you might find out just how fragile.

When I was a child I spake as a child, I understood as a child ... when I became a man I put away childish things...  

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  Be a man.

Answer 10

well once you get married to someone you love you are supposed to give up many things in life like partying and specially over drinking if you have children. So my suggestion is to talk to your wife ask her what she would do to have fun and also ask her if she like you doing these activities. And yes it is a phase because you married so young and you were not able to have fun and free time by yourself so it is hard to deal with it but the only real answer is to ask yourself am i doing the right thing?; you also need to think of your wife and daughter.

Answer 11

you're still young, its a phase, just keep it to weekends and make sure you're still helping her out with household stuff and your daughter:)

Answer 12

Try doing something with her that you both enjoy and lay off partying for one week.  See what happens.