Breaking down because of eviction & postnatal depression..pls help ?

Question

Hello,

I am a single mum of 2 months baby, got eviction due on 2nd of September(2days left!). Got postnatal dpression, health problems as well as social problems. Have no family in UK. Was about to book flight to go home for a break because i had ENOUGH when i received the eviction order so got stuck here with all my furniture, books clothes and other things.

went to the council and they said they will provide me with somewhere to stay in from the day of eviction till they found me somewhere else.

now my depression is getting worse with each hour, and i got no one to help, even my so called friends let me down and could not care less!

when baby cries i just cry with him or scream on his face!

i am getting worried that they will put me somewhere where i will have to share one room with others, also i wonder if i will be allowed to fly home so family can help me to look after baby, i am really worried about him, i worry that at sometime i might hurt him because i got self harm thoughts. Also i am terribly homesick and need to meet family after a traumatic childbirth experience. it's nearly 3 months gone and baby has not met any family member!

landlady decided to evict me as soon as she found out i was pregnant, but used " maintainance" as an excuse.

my questions: will i be allowed to go to fly home for few weeks while put in hostle?

do i have to share room with others even if i have a baby with me?

thanks in advance

Answer 1

I am very concerned about how you are feeling.  If you can please call NHS24 on 08454 242424 and tell them how you are feeling.  You need help and support urgently and they should be able to provide you with some information for your area.  

I am very angry about the actions of your landlady.  She should be made accountable for what she has put you through.  The first thing for you though is too please call NHS24.

I hope all goes well xx  

Answer 2

first of all i think you need to help your baby by taking him some where such as th hospital or to social services to let them know about your condition and that you feel that you might do harm to your son. there are so many women who kill there kids after having thme due to postnal depression and i dont wanna see you on the news, the fact that you are asking for hlep is a good thing. i think you should definaitly fly home if you can get help there. maybe you should move back home. i wish i could just come threw this screen and help you but since i cant go to some one you can trust and let them know

Answer 3

I come from the uk and dont know where you are but it cant be that much different!

You definitely need help, you need to get yourself an appointment at the doctors and be totally honest about how you are feeling, if they are good at their job, alarm bells will ring and they will be able to support you,even with your housing problem.

Have you sought any help from a legal source about your eviction, here,in the uk we have a place where you can get free legal advice, as one thing I also know about the uk is even if you are being evicted they cant just come along ant throw you out.!

The council will definitely NOT make you share a room with anyone, Facilities maybe(such as a kitchen and a bathroom)

You sound very vulnerable, you will be given help!

It sounds like a trip home will do you good, and once you have your accomodation sorted, even if its temporary , I am sure  no-one would do anything about you popping away back home, as long as it wasn't for more than a week or two!

The very best of luck!

Answer 4

the council will not put u somewhere where u share a bedroom, u will have ur own bedroom and maybe a shared kitchen or bathroom. its more likley they will put u in temporary private accomadation until a permanent council place comes up.

with the depression have u seen ur health visitor about it or the doctor and got anti depressants and maybe a councillor.

With the going home issue, it may be if ur put in a hostal u usually have to sign each morning so going home wouldnt be an option yet.

but if u wait till ur housed either in temp or perm then u can go back to ur home country for a holiday.

wheres the babies father, cant he take the baby for a day to ive u a little break?

Answer 5

''when baby cries i just cry with him or scream on his face!''

this statement concerns me. first and foremost, i am concerned for the safety of your child. secondly i am concerned for your safety. you NEED medical attention. as you know, here in the UK we dont need to pay, we just make an appointment and tell them whats wrong. i suggest you do this now.

from a mummy slowly fighting (and winning) against PPD

Answer 6

I really dont know what to say to you. sorry things are hard. i think you really need to talk to someone. im a single mom too and ive been made homeless in the past so i can understand how you feel. email me if you need to chat..

o yeh to answer your question. I dont think you will be allowed to fly home but not sure. and it depends what hostel you can put in but these days most will have separate room.

Answer 7

first off take a deep breath!!

your situation isnt as bad as it sounds. i have had friends go through this experience..

you will not have to share a room with anyone else apart from your baby..

could your family not come to see you..

and your landlady has been very unfair she is not allowed to do that;..but if she has found another way or excuse ther isnt really much you can do..

the only other thing i could recommend is a womans refuge but as you say you are a single parent that wouldnt be helpful!!

i dont think going home to see family is a good idea when you have asked the council to help you as you will loose a place to stay..

something will get sorted..

and go to the doctor for goodness sake and get yourself some proper help with your depression..

good luck