Breastfeed for my foster baby 2 months

Question

i just adopt my a baby girl , she quite dark as her original father is an indian. But i and my husband fell in love the moment i saw her eyes looking into mine. now my lawyer is processing the documentation.

but i want to breastfeed her, i need to know how to produce breastmilk.

is there any side effect if i try to produce breastmilk.

thanks a lot lots

Answer 1

I think that's child molestation.  This is not about YOUR needs.  

Have your own baby.

Answer 2

you cannot produce milk unless you are pregnant. Which you were not, therefore you cant breastfeed the bubs!

Answer 3

I am a birth mother and if i ever found out that my daughters adoptive mom was breast feeding her i would be furious! That is a natural thing that mother's get to utilize because they carried this child for nine months. It was NATURALLY given to them. You are pretty much trying to play real mommy by "fake" breastfeeding this child. It's kinda in a way trying to make people think that you did carry this child for nine months and you did go through an agonizing labor to do everything you could for this child. Sacrificing your body for nine months. You didn't. All you did was sign a piece of paper......so leave the breastfeeding to the mothers that have the natural right to breastfeed and don't do it for your own selfish needs. Babies are just as well off having formula.

Answer 4

This IS possible.  Here are a couple of links, also try googling "induce lactation"

http://www.ehow.com/how_2064473_induce-l...

http://www.surrogacy.com/medres/article/...

Answer 5

Drugs in breast milk is not good for babies.

Poor child having to be placed into another unstable home.  

Answer 6

It is possible, but not easy.  You need to take a supplement and then start pumping - eventually your milk will come in and you can breastfeed her.  Find a lactation consultant that can help you.

Answer 7

You can establish a milk supply. it may not ever be enough to only breastfeed your baby (you may have to use bottles too) Check with the La Leche League and they can help you... As for the people saying it's impossible to breastfeed an adopted child... READ A BOOK once in a while, you might learn something.

Answer 8

I would contact a LaLeche League branch near you. Look them up online or ask a nearby lactation consultant. :) Good luck!

Answer 9

what does her being dark have to do with breastfeeding?

Answer 10

If the adoption is not finalized then she legally is not your child yet, therefore, breastfeeding would be consider a form of sexual abuse.

Once all the documentation is done and she is legally yours then go ahead.

Answer 11

Ok  why the h**l is it even important to us or you that "she quite dark as her original father is an indian"  

Then yes it is possible to produce breast milk there are meds you can take and you can pump your breast and your body will be tricked into thinking you  gave  birth

Some on here  will say that is awful and gross. Personally I am still out on that.  I think it has its benefits and has its place if done for the right reasons.  

Answer 12

If she is a foster child through the state, they won't let you breastfeed.  However, if you are an adoptive parent, then the decision is up to you and if your body is able to produce enough milk.  There are pills that you can take that may help induce the milk (although they like to start this at least several weeks before the child is born) and other ways (like tubing that contains milk you put near the nipple so the child suck and cause milk to come in), however, not everyone can produce milk, or enough milk.  Also, given the child has not nursed for 2 months, it might be rather difficult for her to accept the breast instead of a bottle.  I would talk to your doctor and someone from laleche league.  Just know it will be a tough road to produce milk and get her to accept it - if she ever does.  

I am a big supporter of breast-feeding, but it isn't the best decision in every situation.  Perhaps you might want to talk to a few people you know and make sure this is really best for your new baby.  You can still have those special moments feeding your new baby without nursing - just hold them close to your chest, hold the bottle, make eye contact, sing, talk, or rub them, and give them all the attention they need.  

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 13

honestly, i really wish people would stop experimenting on little, innocent infants to satisfy their "baby-jones."

do the child a favor, feed her a bottle. you are adopting to parent, not play nursing mommy.

Answer 14

Um.....as an adoptee.....I would have been really cranky if I found out that my a-mother breastfed me - just because she wanted to.

Look closely into your heart - to see if you want to do this for you - or for the baby - really.

Most that do this - do it for themselves.

You have to take a whole heap of hormones to do it - and that's not so great for a baby - as they will pass through the breastmilk.

'Bonding' with a baby has more to do with holding - looking - talking to - being attentive - with the child.

It's not about the feeding.

Your question sounds like you want to do this just for you.

Is that really fair to this child??

She has no say in it at all.

Answer 15

you yourself can not breast feed the child unless after you are pregnant

Answer 16

Is this a foster child or adoptive child?????

How would you feel if the babysitter decided to breastfeed your child?

If there is a medical reason for the child to be intolerant of formula, ten you need to talk to her mom to see if you have her blessing to breastfeed or if she will supply you with breast milk and talk to the docs about if it is in the best interest of the child. Also 2 months old is kinda old to start breastfeeding.

I had considered breastfeeding my adoptive son, only after I was told that he was positive for PKU. Thank God it was a false positive.

Answer 17

No offense, but I think you should discuss this with your doctor. This coupled with some of your other questions causes me to wonder if you might not benefit from someone to talk to about how you feel about motherhood and who can help you understand adoption and the needs of an adopted child a bit more clearly. Adoption is supposed to be about the child's needs - no one else's. A good parent can place the child and their needs and feelings ahead of their own. I am concerned that you are suffering and grieving not having a biological child and perhaps need to deal with some of your own feelings before you take on this child. I am not trying to be mean or insult you, I just get the impression that you are in pain and hope that you will resolve as much of your own suffering and feelings before you begin shaping a young life.

I hope that you understand what I am saying and can forgive me if it comes across funny. I couldn't think of another way to word it. Good luck to you and your future family.

ETA: If this child is a few months old before you physically have her (I was wondering about the 2 months in your Q) it could be damaging to attmempt breastfeeding her if she is used to a bottle and has been using it for a while. There is also the possibility that she will reject your milk if she is used to formula. Please consult her pediatrician before attempting to to this!!!

Answer 18

This is one of those things that I don't get.  Why why why???

I understand why pregnant women who give birth breastfeed because their bodies have produced the milk which their babies need.  But if you didn't give birth and you don't have milk - why then?????

It just sounds so wrong and so self indulgent.

Buy formula, my kids are very healthy and they were both raised on formula.  

That child does not need your drug induced milk.