Bridal Shower Dilemma?

Question

My bridal shower is August 23 and I was wondering what to do about out of town guests. I know they won't be able to attend the shower if I invite them, but is it rude not to? I just don't want them to think that all I want is gifts from them since I know for sure they won't be in town. But on the other hand, I want them to feel included. Any help would be appreciated.

Answer 1

You can invite them and if they cant go at least you put that invite out there.

I also know that you can invite out of town invited guests to the rehearsal dinner, if you are having it the day before your wedding.

Good Luck=)

Answer 2

What I did with my out of town guest is I put where the papers the stores gives you where your gift registry is in their wedding invites. I felt bad but I didn't want them to feel obligated like they had to come too.

Answer 3

Invite them, only the ones that are

close to you will send gifts.

Answer 4

You don't have to invite every out-of-towner to your shower. If you have a few aunts or cousins who live out town but who you feel very close to, you might want to send them an invitation with a note that says "I know you probably won't be able to make it, but I've been thinking of you and wish you could be here!"

Out-of-town acquaintances, however, don't need to be or expect to be invited to your shower.

Answer 5

I live out of state a long way from family. It hurts when no one thinks of me when it comes to showers. It's like out of sight out of mind. Don't think just because I can't physically be there doesn't mean I don't care. I can send a card or a gift.  You can always put on the invitation "know you can't physically be here, but want you to know we are thinking about you. Hope to see you at our wedding".  It's the thought that counts at both ends of the invitation.

Answer 6

If you are talking about your 3rd cousin who lives across the country, maybe not, but even relatives who are 3 and 4 hours away may choose to make the drive.  If you love them and would like them there, invite them!  Even the aunt that lives next door might not be able to make it to your shower for some reason, but you still invite her!!

Answer 7

It depends on how far away they live. If you are in a small state, invite those who live in that state (unless you are bordering another state, and know people who live close to the border). If you are in a big state, I wouldn't invite people who would not easily be able to make the drive.

Answer 8

you invote everyone. If they attend great.

Answer 9

It never hurts to invite someone. If they can make it, great! If not, that's okay...at least they knew you were thinking about them.

Side note: one of my bridal showers is on the 23rd as well! :)

Good luck!

Answer 10

i have the same prblem but with my wedding..my aunt (well recently divorced from my actual uncle) wont come to the wedding but im sending her an invitation with a little note inside just letting her know that i know she probably wont come but it would mean alot if she did

Answer 11

I see your point, but have gotten invitations for a number of out of town showers and I have never thought it was rude.  I always send a gift and best wishes.  I have gotten a little offended when I haven't gotten one though, so I think it's the opposite of what you are thinking.

Answer 12

I think that you should send them an invitation because if you didn't they would think that they wouldn't be important to you and they feel kind of diapointed. But, i also see from where if you send them an invite, they would think that you just want gifts. If I were in your shoes, i would just send them an invite!

Answer 13

invite them!  It should be every woman invited to tehw edding.  Just having been invited means something even if they cant make it!

And you can post the photos online for them to look at after the party.

Answer 14

As long as they're invited to the wedding itself, it shouldn't matter whether you invite them to the shower.  If you think it will be unfeasible for them to attend your shower and then come all the way back in a short time for the wedding, leave them off the shower guest list.  However, you do need to make sure that everyone on your shower list is also on the wedding list.