Bridal Shower RSVP?

Question

I've gotten about 5-8 people that havn't responded. These are relatives that I don't talk to everyday. Should I just assume their not coming?? Do you include those people or exclude them?

Answer 1

Diana!

Some people are just plain rude and there is not much you can do about it, except to exclude them if they show! If they do show explain to them that the invitations had  RSVP on them and that had they done so, you would have planned on them being there. Since they didn't, then you could not plan on them coming! Good Luck and May God Bless Your marriage!

Answer 2

It is not rude to give them a call, and see if they plan to attend. Set a new deadline, give them a call, you can leave a message on a machine, or e-mail. Be nice, and polite. Say: "Hi, Aunt Polly,  this is the bride Mary, I hadn't heard from you about the shower Sue is giving me a week from Saturday, just wondering if the invitation or the RSVP could have got lost in the mail. Things like that do happen! Give me a call by this Saturday if you plan to attend".

Done this way, they do not have to explain to anyone why they did not respond, and you are making it clear if you do not hear from them, they can't come.

Never assume anything about an invitation, the 5-8 people are liable to show up, and bring 2-3 total strangers along with them. LOL.

Answer 3

my wedding etiquette book says that you should call anyone who doesn't rsvp to ask them if they're coming. but if you still can't get ahold of them (or if you decide not to call them) then the book says you should of course plan that they ARE coming,  so that in case they do show up you will have enough food etc for them