Bridal Shower Thank You Notes - Please Help?

Question

I read somewhere that you had to send the thank you notes for a bridal shower or a wedding in the mail. But I was wondering...for the people I see every day, like co-workers, family, etc., is it okay to pass them out face to face?

Any help would be appreciated. :-)

Answer 1

I think it would be just fine. Walk up and give them the card and tell them I was mailing out my thank you notes and I wanted to hand you yours to say thank you in person. That should be better than mailing

Answer 2

It's most appropriate to send them in the mail and it doesn't have to be a major investment of money either. You could even do postcards to save on the expense of fancy cards, envelopes and postage. The important thing is that you take the time to write something nice as a thank you and send it in the mail as that shows great sincerity. I figured with all of the money they spent on me, it wasn't a problem to spend a bit of $ on some nice stationary and write them each a note of thanks. Older folks especially appreciate this.

Answer 3

I usually send them by mail. It is always nicer to receive a friendly note in the mail as a surprise than have one just handed to me so you can save a stamp.  

Answer 4

I would definitely send them by mail-Much more appropriate!

Answer 5

Some people may see this as tacky, or as if your trying to save a stamp. I personally see nothing wrong with it, but I think you should mail them out, just to be on the safe side.

Answer 6

by all means!  i had people thank me for just handing them their thank you note...they said they didn't want me to waste a stamp on them when i see them all the time!  but be careful about the person too.  i saw my MIL every week, but had to mail hers because she's just that type...all into what you're "supposed" to do.

Answer 7

Personally, I see no problem with it as long as you did what someone already said and say something like, "I wanted to hand-deliver this in person to say how much I loved having you at my shower."

However, some etiquette mavens out there might have a problem with that.

Go with your gut on this one. It's not a formal wedding gift thank you, so I think you're good. Maybe let the shower dictate for you. If it was a more upscale event, then mail them. If not, passing them out is just fine :)

Answer 8

I would think so... I think the most important aspect of this is to actually give people thank you notes, which seems to be a courtesy that's disappearing.  I'd hand-write the notes and hand them out face-to-face, saying "Thank you" and smiling... much better than getting something in the mail and more personal, too.  

Answer 9

its all about preference. i designed my thank-you notes on the computer. then one by one i went through each and typed a message for the person it was for. with my family & husbands family, i handed them out. with co-workers, i sent them via e-mail, . it saved me a ton on stamps and my family was glad for the visit, as we dont get to see each other often. and my co-workers liked seeing something different in their email! whatever you decide to do will be fine. with a wedding around the corner, there are BIGGER things to stress over! good luck, and congratulations!!

Answer 10

If it's a handwritten thank you note, I think it is entirely appropriate to hand-deliver them to people you see every day. It also gives you the opportunity to gush over their contribution to your day face-to-face.

Answer 11

The mail is classier.

Answer 12

I think it would be more classy if you senet them in the mail. But either way is fine, just depends what you want to do. It would be nicer if you sent them in the mail though.

Answer 13

it is more traditional to post them in the mail, but I dont see any harm in passing it face to face.

maybe if you are close to them then pass it face to face... but if you are more like acquaintances then mail it...

:D

Answer 14

Close friends and family you can hand them to them, a personal touch.  Mail the rest.

Answer 15

I think it's fine to hand them out to your "every day" folks.  I'm so stoked to receive thank you notes (they are so rare) that I don't care if it comes by mail or if it's given to me in person.  Especially if the in-person delivery comes with a big smile.  :-)