Bridal Shower advice.....Please help!!?

Question

I'm the Maid of Honor. My friend's sister is the Matron of Honor. My friend is getting married in late October, and I have been trying to plan the Bridal Shower with my friend's sister for months now. It's been really hard for me to get a hold of her. She never answers her phone,

replies to the e-mails I send her or the text messages as well. I'm getting really nervous because the Bridal Shower is next month, and she hasn't even sent out the invitations (like she promised). I'm not one to complain, but I do not know what to do. I have also asked her tif we could meet for lunch and decide the budget, and who is going to buy what. But she told me that she doesn't have time for that. She works full time and said she would just buy what she wants to. She said she doesn't need to plan anything, and that I should just go with the flow.... Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! :)

Answer 1

well i would hate to be in your position, she doesn't sound like a team player at all!! i would just ask her for the amount she was planning on spending and the invitations, and take care of it yourself. if it seems overwhelming ask the brides mother or another bridesmaid for help!

good luck!

Answer 2

I would hand everything back, wash my hands of any plans and then just attend the events as they come along.  Bow out of all the planning.

Answer 3

Honestly, I would tell the sister to go ahead and take care of it because she probably knows what she wants to do. I would tell her that I am on a budget and will not be able to go over my budget, so if she is concerned about that, to please let me know. If she asks what your budget is, I'd give her a low figure to keep things reasonable.

Then let her plan it. Show up and be gracious and people will know you aren't the one who has the disaster in case things are strange. I have friends who are like this. They make me crazy because they are always running around at the last minute to get things done. But they are used to it and it's the way they live. I can't handle it so I leave them alone and don't get involved in their last minute choas. Somehow it all comes together. Crazy!

Answer 4

She is the MATRON OF HONOR. She is also the SISTER. She has already told you that she is going to buy everything and handle it between moments of her busy schedule. Relax! Write her a very nice note, tell her that you are there 100% for anything she may need you to do, buy, or pick up at the last minute. Then buy a gift and show up. Really. Sounds like she didn't care for your input, perhaps your tone of voice -- who knows?! But, the point is, she's got it handled. Don't cause friction between sisters. They know each other well enough by now to understand what's happening. If you feel uncertain, or if you feel like you're being left out of the loop, or if you feel like you aren't getting any "glory", next time you're with the bride, say NICELY : "Wow! your sister is amazing. She's so busy and working fulltime and yet she's doing your whole shower by herself, doesn't want any help at all! Has she always been a wonder-woman?" Then see what the bride says. She may be surprised, or she may be totally cool and say "Yep, that's the way she is!" Then DROP IT!!

Answer 5

I would ask the brides mother for help. That way, either she will help you, or she'll make the sister who is supposed to be doing it step it up. Just call her and tell her (sisters name) doesn't seem to have the time or funds to help, and you really want to make it a special night but can't do it all yourself. Dont make it sound like a complaint, just that your worried that the bride wont get a nice shower. Its a little manipulative, but it should work!