Bridal shower?

Question

How far before the wedding are bridal showers held? Is a bad idea to invite guest to a bridal party who will not be invited to the wedding due to our budget?

Answer 1

Usually bridal showers take place a few months before.

If a guest is not invited to the wedding and usually the reception they should NOT be included for the bridal shower guest list.  Doing so just makes the bride appear greedy and leads to hurt feelings.

However, just because a person is invited to the wedding does not mean they must be invited to the bridal shower.

You mentioned "due to our budget".  Hopefully you know that bridal showers are thrown for the bride by friends or family.  She does not throw one for herself.

Answer 2

I would say that a Bridal Party should be held a month or a month and a half before the wedding. If they are invited to the bridal Party then they should be invited to the wedding. I would be really upset that am good enought to spend my money on you for a gift but not good enought to come to the wedding!

If money is a promblem how about inviting them to the cermony and then have a small reception for what your money can be afford! Put your self in their shoes How would you feel if you got an invited to the Shower but not the wedding?

If you are having a destination wedding.....then go for it! Have a big shower then go off on your destination.

Answer 3

Go ahead and invite those guests.Nothing wrong with that.They should understand your situation.Not everybody has money to invite everyone to their wedding.I think like 2 or 3 months before the wedding,the bridal shower is held.Congrats.

Answer 4

As long as it's a month away from the wedding.

You only invite those to the shower who are also invited to the wedding.

Consequence of your choices...

Answer 5

I think bridal showers must be an american thing.  In Britain I had a hen night - my female family members and very close female friends were all who came.  We went out for a meal.  Nobody bought me anything (never expected, apart from some 'rude' presents with the wedding night in mind)  and we all had fun.  In Britain some small jokes on the bride are normal.  I had confetti thrown over me and shoved in my handbag, had to wear a fluffy bride to be crown and answer questions about my fiancee.  It was loads of fun and the restaurant gave me a bottle of champers.  We had it about a month before the wedding, because that best suited everybody.  My sister organised it.  Everyone bought their own meals (although my mother paid for mine).  My sister did everyone a badge to wear saying Jennie's Hen Night (oh, and she did me a T-Shirt in fabric pens saying Bride to Be and got me a garter).  Everyone there was invited to the wedding, but I didn't invite every female guest.  I wouldn't have invited someone who wasn't going to be at the wedding.  I think that British ones have a completely different focus, but maybe its worth a try!

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and keep the wedding and marriage seperate in your mind.  They are not the same thing.  Good luck and happy marriage.

Answer 6

shower is usually 4 to 6 weeks before wedding.

my wedding etiquette book says that any guest invited to shower should also be invited to wedding

Answer 7

Yes it is not polite to invite someone to a shower which is the same as saying give me a gift-and then omit them from the wedding celebration . The only good thing for that person is that this guest will not have to give a wedding gift since they are not invited to the wedding so in a way , they get off easier than the rest who have to give not only a shower gift but also a wedding gift.