Brides.... I am going to my cousins wedding on Saturday with my boyfriend and

Question

it's his birthday. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask the DJ to wish him a happy b-day?

Should I ask the bride first since it's her day?

Answer 1

don't ask the bride or DJ- just sort of mention it to the bride, in passing, that it's his bday.  then if SHE wants, she can decide to tell the DJ and have everyone sing to him or something.  

Answer 2

I would keep it to yourself- celebrate his birthday privately.

Don't ask her, either, you're going to put her in a terrible position of having to say "no, I don't want that at my wedding" and sounding like a creep. Just leave it alone- let this day be theirs and theirs alone.

Answer 3

I would keep it to yourself and celebrate it later. Since he is only your boyfriend he isn't part of the family. Anyways it's the Brides day.

Answer 4

Definitely ask the bride!  

Answer 5

No, it is not polite to do this. You are not at a club or another public place, you are at a private reception.

If you did that to me, I would be a unhappy bride.

Answer 6

I hate when people say it's her day, it's not just her day it's both their day. Anywho, I would just wish your bf a happy birthday in private, you might put the couple in an awkward position if you ask them because they might not want to say yes but will feel ruse doing so, so just avoid the whole situation and do it privately  

Answer 7

It's a really sweet idea, and you mean it as something special for your boyfriend, but you might want to skip it.  You could ask the bride, and she would say it's fine, but your boyfriend might be embarassed being wished Happy Birthday in front of a large crowd.  Plus there will be people that he may not know that well wishing him Happy Birthday as well.  Even if the bride, the groom AND your boyfriend were all totally cool with it, there's always someone in the crowd at a wedding who wants to have something to turn into a big deal, and what they might choose to be negative about would be the birthday wish stealing the bride and groom's thunder.  Take your boyfriend aside, wish him a happy birthday, and do something really special for him within a couple of days, and save yourself some stress and possible upset.

Answer 8

I would ask the Bride if she minds,It is her Big day and you don't want to make her upset.

Answer 9

You might not want to overshadow your boyfriend's birthday with your cousin's wedding. 1) People don't know your boyfriend and 2) You don't want them to feel like they have to get him something for his birthday and 3) It's the wrong place to announce that kind of thing to people that came for your cousin's wedding, not your boyfriend's birth - day.

Answer 10

It is inappropriate, don't ask.

Answer 11

you should ask your boyfriend if it is okay for you to go to the party and if he is okay then ask the bride that after the party you can get him something special and if he says no then you have 2 options either stay with your boyfriend or dump him.

if he loves you then he wouldn't mind

Answer 12

The wedding celebration would NOT be the appropriate time or place for you to celebrate your boyfriend's birthday. That is something that you should celebrate with him, without putting him into the spotlight at someone else's celebration, in front of many people who do not even know your boyfriend.

Instead, take him out for breakfast or lunch before the wedding to celebrate his birthday then. Or leave the reception a little early and have a small celebration after the wedding. Or do something personal that will make the wedding a little special for him but be just between the two of you -- like getting him a boutonnière to wear with his suit, or requesting that the DJ play his favourite song.

Answer 13

I agree its not his birthday party don't do it.  Can you take him out somewhere before or after the wedding and make some special time just for him?  Or take him out for dinner the day before and celebrate then and get him a nice gift.

Answer 14

it would be best to ask your cousin.  I"m sure she wont mind.

Answer 15

It would very inappropriate.

Answer 16

I think that would be a bit tacky. It's not his birthday party, it's her wedding. The whole thing is about the bride and the groom. I wouldn't do it.

Answer 17

For once I agree that this is something that doesn't belong at the wedding.  Wish him Happy Birthday privately.  In talking to your cousin and she finds out it's his birthday, she coule ask the DJ to wish him Happy Birthday, but that's about it.

Answer 18

I'd ask the bride if she minded first. I wouldn't mind at all if it were my wedding.

Answer 19

I would ask the Bride, but I personally think that's tacky and completely inappropriate. If I were the bride, I might be a little offended even being asked.

It's a celebration of the union of two people, and doing that takes some of the spotlight away from her and her new husband on their day.

Do something special with your boyfriend before or afterward.

Answer 20

I think that it would be inappropriate.  On her wedding day, the attention should be on her, not someone else.  You should save it until after the wedding.  

Answer 21

I would ask the bride if she minds.  Some people are perfectly fine with something like that.  

I've known people who were getting married and they liked not being the center of attention the whole time.

Answer 22

I think that would be sweet, but yes you should ask the bride and groom first.