Bridesmaid, who has broken appts. is vacationing, can't make rehearsal the day before W day but says ok to W?

Question

I have a bridesmaid who I finally was able to get into dress to try and pick for everyone (yes that is how it turned out), found what she liked, but it was too much (she is a student), so I looked extensively for her for two months to find the right dress, right price, everyone else is fine. Of course the dress did not fit when it arrived, and will have to be altered. She wanted to add straps and such, I convinced her she needed to look like the others. Now she is going on vacation (her business) out of the country. She says she will miss the rehearsal, which is the day before the wedding, but be there for the wedding. I feel this has been something I have been dealing with because of our friendship but this is just too much I fear...any answers?

Answer 1

I, too, had issues with my one bridesmaid.  (She didn't get measured by a tailor, took them her herself, and then lost 20 lbs. and the dress didn't fit, and THEN wanted me to pay for alterations [I did not]; she was out of town for my shower, and I had to take a train ride to her for the "bachelorette party", and then she didn't come to the rehearsal so that she could drive down with her boyfriend, of which she was considering breaking up with.)  

In the end, NONE of that mattered.  Stay friends.  

Answer 2

Just go with the flo, Hon.....if she doesn't show up for the wedding because of flight delays, etc then recoup and consider her a loss....I would include that as a possibility in your wedding rehearsal and practice plan 'B'...if she doesn't show up.

A rehearsal isn't really a big deal anyway, it's more for quelling nerves.....as long as she has a maid in front of her and one behind, how hard is walking down an aisle?

But make it clear to her if she's late for the wedding even by a few minutes..she will forfeit being in the bridal party and ditto on all bridal pix...she had the choice to save her vac for another time, or could have stayed local...good luck.

Answer 3

She may be you friend but if she isnt helping you prepare for your big day and just making problems worse then you need to tell her. This is you big day dont get messed up because of something someone else is doing wrong.

Answer 4

I understand. I have a hostess that just told me she's goind on vacation the day before my wedding. so I had to replace her. Its easier to replace a bridesmaid now. You can't replace memories of your wedding. Friend or foe, she is causing you uneccessary stress. This is your day. She clearly is not taking this seriously. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

i completely understand how you feel-been there! one of my bridesmaid didn't pick up her dress until the day before my wedding and she also booked a hair appointment the day of my bridal shower AND never came to my bachelorette (anyways!) i think you need to find someone else who is more interested in filling the role of a bridesmaid. your 'friend' doesn't seem to be that interested in your wedding and doesn't want to be involved in the role of a bridesmaid!

i wish i had booted my friend out and asked my cousin to take her place!

Answer 6

I understand, you don't want to lose a friend, just talk to her BUT also have another girl on stand by just in case... Good Luck