Bridesmaid help?

Question

i used to be close friends with this girl for around 5 years, through high school and after school she started hanging around different people and that was fine with me bc i was not into the new things she was (parting, drinking, smoking etc) and everynow and then she would wanna get together with us and say "well since yall dont invite me anymore..." well i talk to her a few times a month bc she writes me emails but now i'm planning my wedding and i didnt want to include her to be a bridesmaid...i'm planning on inviting her though...but i know she will be crushed bc sometimes she still thinks we are best friends even though we dont talk (its weird) what do i do?!?!? make her a bridesmaid?!?!? (she was one of my quince girls, but now were just not that good of friends..)

Answer 1

tell her that she has changed and what she changed and to help her get back to the friend she waz!!!

Answer 2

You are supposed to pick who you want to be bridesmaids in YOUR wedding, don't have anyone else guilt you in to it or make you feel bad for your decision. Even if she would like to, it just isn't going to happen. If she asks tell her you had a really hard time decided and tell her why you picked the other people, not why you didn't pick her.

Answer 3

Don't even bring up the subject of bridesmaids. Just send her an invitation. If she asks who you're having (hoping you'll say "you, of course"), just say "I've already asked my attendants" and then change the subject - talk about the dress, the cake, or better yet, something not related to the wedding.

If you aren't terribly close to her and it isn't going to cause major family drama (like left-out sisters or sisters-in-law sometimes do), you should not feel obligated to have her in your wedding.

Answer 4

Just invite her to the reception. You can't have everyone who "might" get hurt feelings in your actual wedding--it's too expensive. Let her deal with her feelings herself--whether she comes to the reception or not is up to her--not your problem, really. You two sort of went your separate ways awhile ago--don't feel bad enough to include her when you aren't close anymore...Good luck!

Answer 5

When you choose your bridesmaids, they should be ppl who are very special to you. Judging by what you said above, I don't think she's that special to you. Just invite her to the reception. That's enough.

Answer 6

If you don't want to ask her, then don't,  Don't feel forced into it.  Just let the time go by, don't mention anything to her, then send her an invitation with everyone else.

Answer 7

I wouldn't make her a bridesmaid. She's gotta know deep down inside that from the distance you guys just aren't THAT close anymore. And if she doesn't you gotta tell her. Wouldn't it suck to look back at your wedding pictures and see a bridesmaid that didn't belong and is only there outta guilt?

Answer 8

Bridesmaids also need to be available to help with you things... email is not going to cut it really.

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Answer 9

Just tell her that she is invited and that all! If she ask to be your bride maid, Tell her that you have all the ones that you need already! If she keeps trying tell her you future husband says that he does not want many brides maids! A little white lie so you wont hurt her feelings!