Bridesmaid problem- is it too late???

Question

I had asked my cousin to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. Now she might have to back out due to not being able to afford to come out here. Is it too late to get someone else? I'd like to ask my niece (to be, she is his niece and will be mine) to be my other bridesmaid, she is 13 and then make her sister, who is 11 my personal attendant. Then she won't feel left out, since her brother is a groomsmen, and her younger sister is the flower girl. But is it too late to order her gown and get it on time and everything? The wedding is October 18th. HELP here!!

Answer 1

I think that October 18th is really tight.  Personally I would be offended to be asked after the fact when the wedding party has been picked out for a while.  It would feel like you didn't really want me but that you were just asking me as a fill in.  When my husband's cousin asked him as an after thought he said no.  That is terrible that your cousin is backing out so late in the game.  She shouldn't have said yes if she couldn't afford to be a bridesmaid.  You don't need to have a personal attendant so that her feelings aren't hurt.  Just pick the one girl but personally at this late date I wouldn't ask anyone else.  Anyway, it would take months for the bridesmaid dress to come in.  

Answer 2

October 18th is cutting it close, but it might be doable... but just barely.

Answer 3

I think it might be a better idea to try and see if family can help your cousin with the expenses. It is unfortunate that she waited so long to notify you that she may not be able to attend.

Before you ask the other girl to be a bridesmaid, you might  want to ask the place where you ordered the bridesmaid dresses if they can send it overnight to you or the person who needs it.

Another option would be to get a dress the same or a complementary color off the rack. You might need to go shopping with  new bridesmaid.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Wow. My wedding is the same day. I would be a bit peeved at my friend for doing that to me last minute.

If you can order the dress rush, no it isn't too late. You could look on houseofbrides.com. They have alot of dresses there and you can see how fast it can get to you. Check it out.

Answer 5

Can their mother afford dresses for everyone?  If so, call the dress shop about the dresses you want and in the color and see about oder time then get then right to the store for sizing.  

Answer 6

If she were to be your matron of honor.No problem because the matron of honor has to wear something even a minute somthing different then the the brides maid as the best man's tux has something different then the groomsmen

Answer 7

Definately not to late, just do it right away. In my wedding we had a groomsman back out the night before and we were able to find a replacement and a tux for our wedding. You still have a month and a half and you should be able to get her a gown. Just ask your niece, if you don't you might regret it later. If you can't get the exact one you want because it is too late maybe consider trying to find something of the same color in a different style, which might work depending on how many bridesmaids you have. All my bridesmaids had different styles and different colors. I had four that their colors were fushia, red, orange, and yellow.  

Answer 8

it may be a little late to get someone else.  Your neice could be a jr. brides maid.

If you can't get a replacement don't worry, they do not have to be even sided. I've seen wedding pictures where they had 7 bridesmaids to 3 groomsmen and I actually didn't even notice it was uneven until someone pointed it out to me.  It looked perfectly fine.

I'd call where ever you are getting your dresses from and ask them how quickly they can have them.  Also, if it's a jr. bridesmaid you could always just go look at stores that sell prom dresses and stuff (they may still have some in stock especially with a lot of convocations going on in the next month) and see if you can find something in the same colour but a different style.  Being a jr. bridesmaid it won't matter if the style is a bit different.

Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 9

I think have it uneven I would hate to be the 11yo being made the "personal attendant" so not to feel left out if your that worried why did you not include the 11yo in the wedding in the 1st place. Like others have said uneven looks fine and I have also been to a wedding where that was the case.