Bridesmaid question?

Question

I have 4 good friends that will be my bridesmaids. But lately I've been becoming closer to 2 of my 3 future sister in laws. All 3 of them are my fiance's brother's wives. I was thinking about asking the two that I've been getting close to, to be my bridesmaids too. I've met the third sister in law a few times(they live kinda far from us), so I don't know her that well. Would it be wrong of me not to ask her to be a bridesmaid? I like her and all, but the distance and the fact that I don't know her that well makes me wonder what to do. Her hubby is my fiance's best man. My fiance has 4 groomsmen(3 brothers and his best friend....if I add the 2 SIL my brothers would be the extra groomsmen).

What would you do?

Answer 1

If you can afford it, do it. I am only having 2 bridesmaids, my sister and my sister in law..

Answer 2

I would ask all three. It is definitely wrong to ask two and leave the one out, but technically speaking you are supposed to give any family (your sisters or theirs) that you are close to priority for being bridesmaids over your friends. If you don't know her all that well, then maybe this is your chance. If nothing else your extending your hand in the good faith that you can become good friends. And who cares if you have one more girl then guys, we did at my wedding, and it just gave everyone a good laugh when the last groomsmen walked out with a girl on each arm...

I hope that it all works out for you!

Answer 3

Not ask any of them. It will only cause problems and tension. Especially since her husband is the best man. Not to mention that they aren't his sisters, they are his brother's wives. Let's fact it. Chances are at least one of those marriages will end and then you'll be stuck with with his brother's ex-wife in the pictures forever. Don't do it.  

Answer 4

What if you were to ask the 2 you're closer to be bridesmaid's and then the thrid to be a personal attendant. let her do a reading, or something else. If you give her some kind of part there's less of a chance to have any bad feelings and the whole family gets to be involved.

Answer 5

It becomes a tricky situation. My brother's now wife did not get along with my sister so she didn't ask either of us to be in the wedding so that it wouldn't hurt her feelings. She called and explained it to me beforehand. I am not saying  that is the way to go, but I have been in that situation before. I would recommend you give the third sister-in-law something else to do in the wedding -such as a reading - so that she can be included as well. It doesn't matter the religion because you can always find a good passage about love somewhere. Her name can be in the program and it will keep the peace. She will feel included and you can have the other two as bridesmaids. Good luck

Answer 6

It may hurt her to be the only one not included.  Maybe ask if she would like to doa  reading.

Answer 7

While reading this - I thought "oh, you don't need to ask her because she would understand", but then I read that her husband is the best man.  That would make her the ONLY one that is left out, so YES, under the circumstances, you should include her.  It may be something that brings you a little closer too.  After all, you will be seeing her at family functions form now on!

Just my 2 cents..  large bridal parties are a lot of fun, but please be mindful of the costs for these ladies.  I have been in 3 weddings so far, and my friends were very inconsiderate and chose dresses that were $200-$250, plus shoes.  When you add travel costs, showers, bachelorette parties and everything, it can get very expensive.  Help the girls out, and try to find dresses that will fit them well at a fair price  :)