Brothers,if you opt to have a second marriage,will you opt for a young girl or a old needy woman,widow,barren.

Question

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I am not trying to discuss again the whole of polygamy.I just want to know if you alone,or you & ur wife together decided to have another marriage,will you marry a woman who is beyond middle age,but still able to give kids,or will you opt for a widow with kids,so u can support all of them,or a barren woman,if u already have kids..

Or will you rule out all options and marry a young unmarried lady?

Salam and thanks

Answer 1

Good question... I'd like to see the answers!

Answer 2

If i ever ever ever need to do , it got to be some solid reason for this....

but first my first wife will have to permit this...then i will need to be financially capable to take good care of both of them, provide them equal luxeries i can afford, and love and affection..

i would prefer widow/barren because this way i will be helping someone in good cause too...

Thanks :)

Answer 3

mary someone who has more needs, and by marring them eases their misfortune than its a job well done

Answer 4

im single, and if i have to marry a old needy woman,widow,barren, then it would be for the sake of Allah. but since im not perfect (as all humans) , then actually i would marry a young girl.

Edit: im honest inshallah.

Answer 5

Well sis, if you read the Ayah about second or 3d and 4th wives well...... the main condition when you are allowed to do so is to provide for the orphans.....

This in itself means if you mary a woman just out of lust or any other reason, you are not following Allah's command in the first place.

So only in times when there are a lot of widows with needy children you can take a 2nd wife to start with. It's so sad most don't take heed of this first, very important condition.

Answer 6

Sunflower - I thought the same thing. However, I don’t understand the need for marriage at all why can’t widows and orphans be taken care of just because it is the right thing to do?

Answer 7

I would prefer a widow (preferably barren) in need of some support.

Narrated Safwan bin Salim:

The Prophet said "The one who looks after a widow or a poor person, is like a warrior fighting for Allah's Cause or like a person who fasts during the day and prays all the night." (Sahih Bukhari)

Answer 8

I would prefer widow with kids.