Brothers & sisters in the same bath...when to stop?

Question

My 6 year old daughter is forced to take baths with her 4 & 3 year old brother & sister while visiting her father...I find this weird....what do you think?

Answer 1

how does ur daughter feel about it

Answer 2

What do you mean "forced"?  I think it should end by the age of 5.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with that, she's 6 not 16!  It can go on for as long as she is comfortable with it.

Answer 4

I think that should have stopped when they reached 2 or 3 at the latest. I would say something to him. At 6 years old I was taking my own shower.

Answer 5

While your 6 year old is at your house teach her how to take a shower on her own, and then inform her father that she would be more comfortable showering on her own.

But I also think you need to talk to him about bathing 3&4 year olds of different sexes together. Although it makes his life easier, your children are approaching an age where they want their privacy.

Answer 6

You should have a talk with their father, telling him that yes, It is hard to maintain any kind of sanity when you have three kids and they all needa bath, BUT they are to old to be taking baths togeather, expecially the six year old.

Tell him that she is at the age where she knows or can tell the difference between boys and girls and no longer should be placed in that situation so the no other "situations" will come about...

Children should not really be bathed togeather unless they are boy boy or girl girl, and if you do bath small children togeather, They should be no older than about two.

The best way to reflect the situation is to observe your children, do they ask, why bubby has this part and i have this kind, and whats that for.... That is definately a sign saying no more bath time togeather,

Teach your daughter how to bath herself in the shower or the tub, and have it so that when she goes to her fathers that she can do this and tell her father that she can with a little help take her own showers...

My stepkids take baths togeather when they are at their moms house  some times all three of them..

And my hubby had to say something about this because HIS two, are a boy and a girl and the girl is the middle child.... They both know the diffence between boys and girls. and are not under any circumstance allowed at our home to bath or even go to the bath room togeather," when my step daughter was learning how to potty train, she started immateing her brother by pulling out her belly button and " peeing" into the toilet, when told this was not what girls did, she asked, why dont have what bubby does??? yeah that was quick end to that one.....

TO THOSE THAT SAY A FATHER SHOULD NOT HELP BATH HIS DAUGHTER? WHY??? It really irks me when you have ppl out there that are against a father helping his children, wethere there is custody or not, and then saying. oh your the mom so its ok for you to help your son bath, but not dad and his daughter... Yes there comes a time when both mom and dad need to step out and give the kids their own space in things such as this, but that wont be for a couple of years now?? It seems to me that so many ppl are all for just the mom having controll??? whats up with this maybe i miss read this but I think not......

Answer 7

She's too old for this, do they actually fit in the tub? I have a boy and girl close in age and I started giving them individual baths at three and two and a half.  Tell her dad that the pediatrician said she is too old now to bath with siblings.

Answer 8

If she is uncomfortable with it, then it should stop.  It may be happening because Dad doesn't realize she is capable of bathing herself.  Talk with him and let him know what she is feeling.

Answer 9

I think that the daughter should bath separately but the 4 and 3 year old should bath together for a few more years until they're 6 or 7. I think you should talk to the children's dad and see what he says - it might be he only has enough hot water for one bath or something.

Answer 10

My kids are both seven(not not twins) :-)

anyway my daughter will be 8 in May and my son just turned 7 in Feb. They were taking baths together up until Nov last year. I told them they have to start taking showers and if want to can take a bath but by themselves. One day I realized that my daughter had this huge grow spurt and hogged the whole tub and there was barely any room for the both of them :-) So I think that by 8 they need to be on their own espically if there is a brother girls maybe can go a little longer. Cause you know they grow so fast and sometimes there is no room for two. And boys and girls need their own time to sing and dance in the shower if they want to.. Hope this helped..

Answer 11

I can't imagine how three kids would fit in one tub!   But aside from that, they are all still very little.  A six-year-old is not physically very different from a four or three-year-old girl.  If your daughter is uncomfortable with it, and wants her "privacy" to take a shower, then she should be allowed to do so.  But if it doesn't bother her, I can't really see anything wrong with it.  My kids (all girls) were around 8 when they started feeling the need for privacy in the bathtub.

Answer 12

thats a little weird...shouldve stopped at the latest 3. the four year old and three year old together is okay but definitely not the 6 yr old. talk to their father and put an end to it.

Answer 13

Yes, that is weird that he forces them. I stopped allowing my kids to bathe together when they were 4 and 3. Have you discussed this with him?

Answer 14

My 8 year old daughter sometimes takes a bath with my 2 year old son.  They love pretending like they're in a swimming pool.  With 3 kids those ages, I don't know how they all fit in the tub at the same time.  As long as she's ok with it, why not?

Answer 15

Define forced?

Answer 16

I would insist that he not do that. After all you don't let her do it at home,  plus she's a girl and while she may or may not feel comfortable doing it...he should respect your wishes. I don't think it's so much weird as inappropriate. Lots of parents do this to save time...especially when they are young children, but she's too old.

Answer 17

Tell their father that she needs to shower on her own. She is getting old enough to realize the differences and she needs privacy. Daddy should not be washing her at this point, she should be washing herself, (maybe he can help with the hair). to the lady who said her son and daughter, 6 and 8,  a 6 yr old girl 8 year old boy should absolutely NOT bathe together.

Answer 18

I highly doubt that she knows "the true story" of "how babies are made" and or have hit puberty... Me personally I think it is fine but ask your daughter if she minds sharing a bath with her younger siblings. And if she does ask her father to stop and mention that she is growing up and needs her own space. However if she doesn't mind sharing a bath with her siblings just let it be until she comes to you and says that she wants her own space or vise verse. Or when she hits puberty then that is DEFIANTLY the time to let her bathe herself... I know this 9 yr old girl who still has to have her mom bathe her because she lies through her teeth about EVERYTHING. She would go into the washroom and take off her clothing and PRETEND to bathe herself and just sit down and do nothing for a while and then just come out dry smelly skin and all with a towel on... Boy she is a hassle!

P.S. I stopped bathing with my sister at about 6 1/2 from what I can remember... And we are 3 1/2 years apart... The only reason I stopped then is because I started to feel self conscious and wanted my own space... Other than that I LOVED bath time with my little sister.

Answer 19

Yes, I believe the 6 year old is to old to take a shower with her little brother, but not the sister if she doesn't mind. Just because little boys at that age start noticing different things. I have 6 kids, my oldest are 9 and 8 and my youngest are 4,3,2 and 1. And it is just easier to get the younger ones in a few at a time. but the boys usually take one together and the girls, take one together. OH~ I didn't see the part about how it's at her dads house.. Yeah that's weird, she is too old to be seen naked or bathed by her dad. Although he's probably in there because of the younger ones.

Answer 20

If your daughter likes taking bathes with her brother and sister then leave it for now. Just tell their father to let her take her own bath or shower.

Answer 21

If she's uncomfortable with it, then it should stop.

What makes you say she's forced, though?  Does she tell you this?  And, does she tell you this because she thinks that's what you want to hear, knowing how you feel about dad?  Or, does she actually feel she's being forced?  Have you witnessed her rebelling against it, but being made to do it anyway?

My 6yo daughter & 8yo son love bathing together.  They play all kinds of games & have a nice time just sitting there talking to each other.  

For a short while, they wanted to bathe by themselves, but they missed the playtime together, so started up going in together again.  Whenever either of them says they don't want to anymore, they'll go back to bathing separately.

Answer 22

The only thing wrong with this is 3 kids are a lot for the tub. I'll bet they have fun and it saves time.