Well my brother who is 21 is getting married this Saturday. I'm the 25 year old big sis. I don't really like his fiance, but that isn't really my issue. We are civil with each other, get along, and never gotten into a fight or anything. We basically just tolerate each other, knowing that we don't really like each other.
She of course didn't ask me to be in the wedding. But, she has 4 bridesmaids, one is my 15 year old sister! She had her be a bridesmaid, but left me out. I kind of understand, because I wouldn't want her in my wedding, (I'm already married) but I didn't like being the only one in the family left out. My brother feels bad and doesn't want me to be left out.
So... since our mother is deceased, I asked him if I could light his candle (the mother usually lights the candle) for the unity candle ceremony. He said he'd ask her if they were even doing a unity candle. They are. Now, he says she thinks my grandma should light his candle. Or my dad. Or all 3 of us at the same time.
I told him he needs to decide what HE wants, and let her know regardless if it is me or not who does the candle.
What should I do? I have made my case known. I don't want to be left out of his important day. I love him very much and want to do this special thing for him. Am I being unreasonable? I just want Saturday to go smoothly and help him have the most memorable day and happiest day of his life.
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