Bullies?? dnt know what to do?

Question

it was my first day 2day back at school, and my time table has been changed so anyway i went to my last lesson nd i had 2 sit next to this girl who dont get on with me- and she made my life h**l all through that lesson, i dnt usually get bullied so when i get called the odd name i just take it, but this really got me down and i have the same lesson tomorrow and absolutly dredding it!!!

what do u think i should do?

:( really unhappy

Answer 1

Well it's going to be a long year if you don't nip this one right away. Talk to her in a way that demands respect--look her right in the eye and make sure your body language says you mean business (don't show fear, whine, or complain). Just lay it on the line and tell her that you're not OK with what she's doing and you want it to stop. do this with other people around.

Probably that won't work, but what you're doing is laying the groundwork. Next step, go to the instructor. Tell him/her what's happening. Be firm, but respectful and make sure you are clear that this needs to stop.

Don't let it get out of hand. Make sure you deal with it right away. Unfortunately bullies don't know how to listen and are not easily discouraged, so you need to have a bunch of people who know what is going on--not just that one teacher--b/c this can also happen outside of this class.

I'm sure the school will take notice, b/c there are all kinds of bullying awareness programs out there and it has gotten a lot of publicity and no school wants to have that next to its name.

EDIT Another thing, when you are dealing w/ her, or reporting her, make sure you maintain emotional control. She will look like the idiot and you will make allies/friends and people will be more apt to see her as the problem and not you.

Answer 2

I was bullied terribly when I was a young girl at school.  And it all started very similarly to your situation.  The best thing to do is go see a year head, or a guidance teacher or someone who is in charge of a department etc. Talking to your class teacher may sound like the right thing to do, but they cannot really do much when it comes to moving you or the bully to another class - you need contact a person of higher authority to do such things.  For example, if your class teacher moves your seat, the reason you have moved will probably become extremely apparent and you do not want this.

It may sound extreme what I am saying, but seriously, the quicker you just get out the way of the person, the better.  Also, the sooner you move class etc. the less likely it is going to look like it is because you are being tormented; if you leave moving to the last minute when you really can't take any more, the situation will become obvious.  Act on things straight away, and don't subject yourself being bullied, even if it is minor.

Answer 3

report her to the school now before it gets worse, show that nasty bi**h that she cant get away with it and she has messed with the wrong one!Good Luck!

Answer 4

Tell her if she wants to do something she might aswell do it now p.s u

got much bigger problems to worrry about don't let that get you down...

Answer 5

Stand up to her. Bully her right back. Think of some really nasty hurtful things to say to her. If she responds you can tell her you're giving her a taste of her own medicine. Unfortunately this is the only language bullies understand.  

Answer 6

Report it and ask to be moved next to someone else..You do not have to tolerate any kind of bullying....................

Answer 7

Ask to be moved to another table if shes harassing you let someone know and file a harassment charges.These people usually end up having bad lives so keep your head up and If that doesn't  work let me know I'll kick her ***!!!

Answer 8

Some times reporting makes enemy. Should ask her whats her problem? Um, if she's being weird about it then stand up for your self. Don't be pushed around

Answer 9

Either kick her *** and show her she messed with the wrong gal and if you dont want to do that then tell someone about who can help just tell them how much its really annoying you!!

Answer 10

Tell the teacher privately exactly what you've said here and ask if she could diplomatically put you next to someone else without making a big fuss about it.

Answer 11

Ignore her & treat her as invisible? If you give her no reaction, she'll leave you alone eventually when she can't feel the thrill of it!