Bumping into my ex is self torture

Answer 1

My dear, 3 months is nothing, and it is ok to feel the way you feel. If you allow yourself to feel what you are feeling, it is much better than avoiding it. You are getting out and that is great. I am shy and reserved, so that is harder for me, but I am trying. You will get there mate. Hang in there. You may see in time that things weren't great for a while. I regret not seeing it years sooner and leaving.

I am 6 months out of a 10 year relationship and it is still hard, but it is slowly getting easier. I have to keep facing the fact everyday that things weren't great, and although I wanted to fix them, he didn't, and he is not here, he is with someone else. If you are about to do something out of reaction, stop, think "is this good for me". Driving past the house isn't good. It causes you pain. Believe it or not if you stop doing it, you will feel good that you didn't.

I understand how you must feel not being with your dog. That must be hard. They provide such comfort and joy. I left my cat with him for a few weeks, then moved him to my parents, and I'm now back with him. It's some comfort.

I miss my ex every day, but he made his choice.

Be with someone who loves you for you and who you can love completely. Read, gain knowledge, find comfort.

You will be ok. The journey might just be worth it.