Busted my gf lying, what do i do about it?

Question

i busted her smoking cigs. she got busted big time and even after getting busted she tried to lie and all this and that. i asked her once before if she was smoking again, she said no. i found cig butts and ashes outside our house. we've been together 3 years, and supposedly quit smoking together. she's been lying to me this whole time. how should i handle this. I am quite ticked off about it. the fact she lied and played me for a fool. What do I do? Dump her?

Answer 1

Learn to communicate better:

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Answer 2

Definately DONT dump her! I hate liars and I totally understand your frustration but I think she is ashamed anyway or else she wouldnt of been hiding it! It IS an addiction after all and lucky you for managing to kick it! Dont think that it means she is lying about everything else in your relationship. I mean do you love her? If you dont then fair enough, but if you honestly do would it be worth throwing 3 years away? Me personally , I would be more concerned as to why she didnt just tell me, especially when you would imagine that being an ex smoker you would understand! Doyou think that she maybe suspected you would threaten to dump her over it and thats why she hid it? I think you need to have a long hard look at your own attitude and question the importance of dumping a 3 year relationship over this?You need to communicate with her better!THAT is what I think you should be asking her about. Good luck

Answer 3

everyone lies dude.

that's three years, not a short period...

dump her? will things gonna be better for you?

its just about cigs...come on...

Answer 4

no wonder she lied if this is your reaction! how about showing a bit of support and encouragement if I was her it would be me doing the dumping

Answer 5

Noi i dont think so, iam a smoker i quit for a while and am smoking again now, do u have any idea how hard it is to give up?

Its sooo hard and u dont want her to smoke so she was prob afraid to tell u cus u mite dump her, u need to be supportive and understand y she lied help her through this

Answer 6

Dump her because no one wants to kiss an ash tray... but the worst part about it is that she lied to you...

Answer 7

maybe you should join her. but i wouldn't just start dipping her cigs in vinegar and stuff to give them bad taste maybe she will quit. or just dye from lung cancer.

Answer 8

If you love her, you certainly dont leave her because she has picked up smking again, and at the end of the day, smoking is her choice, not yours. Yes you quit together, and your upset that when she started again she didnt tell you, but to be fair if the first thing you thought about was kicking her to the kurb because she started smoking again, i wouldnt tell you either. She didnt play you for a fool, she probably didnt tell you as she didnt want you to start smoking again, and was doing it for you. dont be so garsh on her.

Answer 9

not for something stupid like that

but that could be serious i guess confront her about it and if she still lies then break up

Answer 10

dump her for sure, u'll never fall in love..lol, she tried lying having u saw her smoking ROFl u have a funny girlfirend

Answer 11

well i can understand how pissed you would be about it...just the fact of her lying ...could make you feel like whatelse is she lying about.  but u do have to realize that you two are two different people.  I do commend you on taking a huge step on your life and quitting smoking i heard thats a hard thing to do.  Now if you feel like being around her would make you go back to doing something that you don't want to do then i say you got some serious decisions to make.  NO ONE ON YAHOO should advise you if you should break up with her or not THATS SOMETHING YOU MUST decide.  we dont know the history between you two ..it may be beautiful besides this one little thing.  the only thing i can tell you is that you must weigh out your options at this point decide if this will make you gtive into temptation and weigh out the relationship to see if its worth saving or not.  i know i wouldnt let go of my love just for ciggs but if i feel like they may be doing something that i know i don't want to be a part of i would talk to them about it and if they still are not willing to work on something they promised they had stopped doing in the first place then i would have to decide if all the other things about that person is worth me staying around dealing with the smell of the smoke.  if not then i would press on if i could deal with it then i would then now tackle the issue of that person lying to me.  ONE THING THAT PISSES me off is a person that lie....h**l how can i trust you from that point on.