But i just don't want to go to the funeral of my friends dad?

Question

i have been friends with this girl on and off for about 5 years . i used to work for her. but anyways i went to visit her mom yesterday. that's when the lady told me her ex husband died. i asked if she was going she told me to go with her. when i asked her if my friend which is her daughter would take her she said no. now listen carefully. i told you i used to work for herr.well i asked herr today if i can get my job back and she said no way. i then asked her why she said i quit. which i did at the time because i was so sick and never worked ever in my life and did not know i could not get my job back. i asked personally if i could come back and they said it was up to my friend. i told my friend this and she said she would have to look in the rule book. i told her know that they said if she wanted me back to ask her. so now i finally got my answers. and no is it she said. well imam hurt about this really bad tonight imam crying. and i don't want to go to this funeral i don't even know her father that passed away. is there any way i can tell herr i cant go and phone her to take her mom i know imam being selfish but if you were in my shoes you would understand any answers would be great. by the way thanks for reading this

Answer 1

  Generally it is not appropriate to go to the funeral of someone you don't know - it can be perceived as 'a low form of entertainment'.  You would only alter that rule in strong circumstances - where you offer support to someone who is extremely close to you.

  The job - and the funeral..... should be totally separate things.

  Otherwise it looks like you are only going to the funeral, to try and suck up for a job.  

  Perhaps the answer on the job - was bad timing?

  I would look for a job elsewhere.  Have some pride.

  Good luck.

Answer 2

You don't want to go, right?  Your friend, who is her daughter, won't take her, right?  The woman doesn't want to hire you back, right?  Why don't you just tell her that you aren't comfortable attending the funeral.  Or, you could go with her just to lend some emotional support, if you feel like it.  But, it doesn't sound like you want to go, so don't.

Answer 3

Whatever went before, ...it's a funeral!

People in mourning get a break.

You said you'd drive her. Her daughter won't.

Just do it as a good deed without expecting to get something for it.