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By request - shorter version - is this just a guy who made a few mistakes - or a rat who will never change?

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Basically I met a guy I thought might be interested and slept with him waaaay too soon. Was young and naive at the time and a virgin before him.......and I think that is why he called me afterwards, I wanted him to call and he probably just saw an opportunity for more s*x. He didn't ask for my number, I just gave it to him - he obviously thought it was a one night thing.

After a couple of 'dates' (when he just was in it for the s*x and I thought he liked me) I found his gf/wife's (I don't think they were married then) eyeliner in his car. He denied it at first but I eventually got it out of him he was already involved with someone else and ended it there and then. He made light of it by walking off saying 'see you round'. I was upset but didn't cry or scream and never sought revenge (and never will - it won't help). I just pushed it away mentally and tried to move on (I think now I am paying for that as a friend mentioned him the other day and I have had it on my mind for a while now - there was no closure at the time). He was using me for s*x. He never lied though (except about the eyeliner) - he just strung me along without telling me he was already involved with someone and deliberately kept me out of his life.

Later I found out that he and the gf got married plus at the time of the cheating that the already had a child!! So could they be happy now? Do guys like him ever change? Could he be a good husband now? He actually seemed to have a sense of civic responsibility (didn't want to leave a used condom out in the park as 'families come up here') -sorry if a bit graphic! He had nice friends who knew about it and obviously didn't say anything to the gf/wife. How could someone who is apparently a good person (well he was scruffy, but not a criminal) who earns mega $$ and has nice friends and family cheat like that? Could he be good now?

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  1. RUN and stop trying to make him out to be a good man, He is a LOOSER .


  2. hes a RAT, a LOOSER and a USER !

  3. Unfortunately, men like him won't ever change..

  4. When a Lady has s*x...they create an "emotional Bond" and that has what you have obviously done...He wanted an uncomplicated one-night stand and you turned it into something more....You were hoping for a complete and open relationship...Unfortunately, as you have just learned...A Life Lesson...Why did you give yourself away so easily?  You will never get that part of your soul back and you robbed your future husband the jou of being with you?And to cheapen and disgust the moment..you actually had s*x in a park? Now, what are you going to do with the lesson you have learned? Try to get a grip on your life and make better choices..Who cares what he thinks?  HE used you for s*x, girl!!  Wake up and move on..go forward and try to be involved with "real people and real relationships"....Learn from your mistake...Go to church and cleanse your soul and move forward!  Stop wondering and thinking about this person..He does not "Deserve" what he so easily took from you.  Good Luck!!

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