C-section depression?

Question

all the way through my pregnancy i was soo excited for the birth and had a specific plan for no drugs...she turned breech when i was 5cm dilated. i had to have an emergency c-secion.

i was soo happy at first that i finally could hold my baby and so proud i still managed to breastfeed, but lately i have been soo upset that i missed out on the birth experience..everytme i hear about someone giving birth i feel so much jelousy...when i should be feeling happy for them!!

did anyone else feel like this and when does this feeling go away??

Answer 1

I had the exact same plan then after 5 hrs of tryin to convince the nurses I was in labor and 12 hrs of labor after that, I still haven't dialated passed 3cm.  The nurse came in suggesting an epideral I took it I wasn't thinking clear to say no and noone even tried to remind me of my previous wishes then the dr. said something about a csection and the next thing I knew I was in the OR.  No emergency or anything my baby was head down and everything.  I regret it I jus keep thinking that I should've waited longer before a C-section.  It's 9 months later and I finally convinced my self that it's not that big of a deal.  Sometimes when I get in the shower and see the scar i dwell on it for a few minutes but I think about it less and less.  I care less when I hear the labor stories also.  Jus give yourself time, and think at least there was a good reason for you to have had a csection.

Answer 2

I had an emergency C-section with my first pregnancy, but I  didn't feel cheated or depressed at all.  Maybe because I'm just grateful that a C-section was even an option -- if it had been 100 years earlier, I probably would have died in labor, so I never felt the slightest bit bad about it -- just lucky.

Answer 3

It hasn't gone away for me. The same thing happened to me. I guess it is just something every women would like to experience, but those of us that didn't get to experience it, feel cheated.

Answer 4

honey you are so lucky to have babys some people cant like me if i was you id  be gratfull that you have your little one and that she /he came from you and the way she come out dont really matter.  as long as she healthy .sweet just look into your babys eyes and think how lucky you are you are blessed i now this has not answerd your question but if you look at it like this then maybe you can for get about the upsetness that you feel.

have fun and enjoy  every moment wilth your little one and maybe one day you want to give her a bro or sis and have a natrile birth all the best xxxxx