CALLING ALL OFFBEAT BRIDES: Did you regret not wearing white to your wedding?

Question

I know this question may seem silly, but as I became swept up in the freshly engaged-I have to have an amazingly traditional wedding just like all the other ones- madness, I went out and bought a gorgeous Maggie Sottero gown, that really is gorgeous, but isn't necessarily "me". Now with my "F*ck you, Pachelbel's Canon" attitude, I've banded together with my fiance and we're having a fun and fancy free wedding and I'm wearing an equally gorgeous purple gown.

Now. . . I know it sounds lame, but has anyone who has been in my shoes and had an offbeat wedding regret not wearing white? My purple dress is fabulous, but this really is my only chance to ever where a white gown....I think. But then again, I don't get the chance to wear ballgowns very frequently as it is...

What do you think???

Answer 1

I'm not going to be wearing white, and even though lots of my family members have complained bitterly about how non-traditional my wedding is, not a single person has objected to my non-traditional wedding dress. Everyone who's seen it says it suits me wonderfully. Really, the regret could go either way. If you wear white, you might regret that, too, so I'd just go with what you like best, and if the white dress isn't "you", don't worry about wearing a purple dress that is.

Answer 2

The ladies at the forums at offbeatbride.com who wore non-white dresses said they didn't regret their choices.

You have to wear what makes you feel beautiful. If you question everything based on tradition and other people's standards, you will go crazy and you won't be true to who YOU are. You will be a cookie cutter bride who has no individual personality. Some brides want that obviously to blend in with everyone else. But if you aren't traditional, then don't conform to what everyone else thinks or does or else you *will* regret it.

Answer 3

I got married in black & white, 5 years ago before it was very common to see bold colors on dresses, I don't regret it at all, my pictures were awesome. My friends have been married in black, hot pink, and fuchsia. All of them were knockouts and they don't regret it in the least.

Answer 4

How about this...it's perfect, what if you wear your beautiful white gown for the ceremony and then shock all your guests by making your appearance at your reception in your gorgeous purple gown.  That would take care of both problems.  

Best wishes to you!

Answer 5

my sister got married and she wore a purple gown.

she looked absolutely stunning, but after she got home from her honeymoon and was looking at her pictures, she started to cry. she completely regretted not wearing white.

she said it was a personal thing and that she just always dreamed, ever since she was a child, of that perfect big church wedding with the huge white dress. she loved her purple gown, but she regretted not going with her dream.

if your dream is to wear purple, then d**n it! wear purple and have the most amazing day of your life. but if your dream is to wear white, then follow your dream. either way i wish you the BEST of luck and a happy life for you and your fiance.

:)

Answer 6

Im wearing a white or ivory gown at my wedding, but I had a friend that wore a bright pink gown to her wedding.  She says she looks back at her pictures and says they don't look like wedding pics, they look more like prom pictures.  

Her gown was goregous and She looked great, but she says she kind of regrets it.  

Answer 7

I think you should wear whatever makes you happy...

But for the bible thumper or whatever he is with the purity talk... you should go farther back, the white gown actually came about to show wealth.. white was harder to come by when most people only had one or two dresses to begin with.. and to have one dress that you only wore once was considered to show your wealth. That was before it became a sign of purity.. and of course depends on where you look it up...

Congratulations...  

Answer 8

Good girls are proud to wear white at their wedding.....the impure and the whores wear other colors.  If you've kept your self-respect and honor, then by all means wear white. It's a once in a lifetime moment and your future children and family will look back on this important celebration.

Good day.

Answer 9

Wear what you want to wear. It's you and your future husband's day. No one elses.

It's your day to enjoy, it doesn't matter what you wear. Looking back at the pictures 10yrs down the road. Are you gonna be happy seeing yourself in that white dress or that purple dress? Is it really going to matter?

OR you could always wear the white wedding dress for the ceremony and then you can wear the purple one for the reception. Total win/win situation there :)

Answer 10

I think you may regret it.

Answer 11

Well, it's supposed to mean you are "pure" and of God. But if that doesn't mean anything to you then do what you want.

Or I love the idea of wearing the white one to the wedding and then breaking out in purple for the reception. How much fun would it be to have TWO ball gowns or whatever they are called and see the look on people's faces when they see you in two dresses. Smitten.  

Answer 12

I am wearing white (well ivory) because I never imagined wearing anything else.  Mainly because, as you said, it's really a girls only chance to wear white.  (Especially a very fancy, eye-catching, white dress).  BUT when will you ever get the chance to wear a fabulous purple ball gown again either?

It's your wedding gown, no matter the colour, and you will of course look amazingly bridal in it, and be the centre of attention all day for your day.

I think no matter the colour, it's how you feel in it.  If you put it on and feel: "this is MY wedding dress" then you won't regret wearing it, even if it isn't the traditional white.  But if you put it on and can only come up with the feeling: "this is a white wedding dress", your missing that special something.

Good Luck!

(PS: can you post pictures of this fabulous purple gown?  I'm so curious!)

Answer 13

Well I wore white but my friend is getting married and actually decided on a purple dress as well and is really excited about the idea ..now a days anything goes and you should just be happy with whatever you decide. Make your wedding more modern and fun rather than traditional so the theme ties in with your dress :) Purple is a beautiful color and you could have your bridesmaid wear a different shade or purple or silver or even a gold!! I say, do what you want ..it's YOUR day!!

Answer 14

The truth is years ago when brides wore whit it was to show they were "pure", and they really were pure, now a days brides are not.  It has now become a pointless tradition to wear white, pure or not.  Wear whatever makes you feel beautiful.  There is nothing wrong with being a little different, I actually admire a person for doing it.  

I can imagine people saying they regret not wearing white, but I personally never regret anything.  At this point wearing purple is what you want to do, why regret that later?  Good luck.  

Answer 15

I wore a very untraditional dress and don't regret it for a minute... Anyone who tells you that you might regret it needs to get their head out of their butt and realize not everyone wants the cookie cutter wedding that all the other brides have.

Answer 16

I think you should wear what makes you feel good. If you are having doubts, you could wear the traditional for the wedding and change to the purple for the reception or vice-versa. Good luck and do what makes you feel good!

Answer 17

Sorry I haven't gotten married yet, but I will in two months, and I have no desire to wear the traditional white.  I'm wearing a jewel-toned orange and red dress, and I LOVE how it looks on me.  I can't wait to see the pictures with my fiance in his handsome brown suit and me in my beautiful colorful dress!

Do what's you!  Go with the purple.  Purple's my favorite color, and I want to see a picture of your dress.

Join the forum on offbeatbride.ning.com and there are tons of pictures of brides with all sorts of colors of dresses and all types.  We're having a very offbeat wedding ourselves, to represent us, and none of the traditional frill that doesn't really make sense.  It's a symbol of us.