CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT CAN I DO TO NOT FEEL SO ANGRY IN MY RELATIONSHIP AFTER DEALING WITH BAD TIMES?

Question

OK SO THIS IS THE DEAL. I'VE BEEN WITH MY DUDE FOR A YEAR. WE'RE SOMEWHAT OPPOSITES. IN A YEAR, HE'S CHEATED AND HAS BEEN FORGIVEN. HE'S FELT CONFUSED ABOUT BEING WITH ME BECAUSE HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HIS SON'S MOTHER, NOW I GAVE HIM THE OPTION TO LEAVE, HE CHOSE TO STAY. THERE'S JUST BEEN ALOT OF UPS AND DOWNS IN THE SHORT PERIOD OF TIME THAT WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER. I'VE DEALT WITH HIS SHORT TEMPERS, KEEPING MY COOL AND JUST STAYING POSITIVE. SO NOW AFTER ALL THE BAD TIMES HAVE SURPASSED HE'S BEEN CHANGING FOR THE BETTER, WHAT I'VE BEEN WAITING ON, BUT NOW I HAVE THE SHORT TEMPER, GETTING ANGRY AT PETTY THINGS, I TRY TO STICK WITH MY POSITIVE THINKING, BUT ITS HARDLY WORKING AND I CAN SEE THAT ITS NOT HELPING OUR RELATIONSHIP. I DO LOVE THE MAN AND I WANT TO MAKE THINGS BETTER AS WELL. BUT I CAN'T SEEM TO SHAKE FEELING LIKE "WHAT MAKES THIS TIME SO DIFFERENT" EVEN THOUGH THERE HAS BEEN A LITTLE CHANGE. I THINK I STILL FEEL ALOT OF THE HURT THAT HE'S CAUSED AND IT'S REDIRECTING ME TO BE SNAPPY AT HIM. I DO REALIZE THAT ME BEING SNAPPY ISN'T HELPING MYSELF, US OR HIM. BUT I'M JUST NOT SURE HOW I CAN GET PAST THIS. I FORGAVE THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED BUT HOW CAN I REALLY JUST LEARN TO KEEP UP THE TRUST I GAINED FOR HIM AND HOW CAN I MOVE PAST THIS THING???

Answer 1

honey,

LEAVE HIM.

dump that chump.

Answer 2

I think your anger is related to the fact that you have been betrayed by your bf in a few different ways...you put all the work into the relationship and probably are still feeling a bit insecure...of course you are angry because you are filled with resentment...you can only get pass all this if you learn to forgive him...forgiving him doesn't mean you wont remember what has gone on, it means you choose to not allow it to come between you both..you move on and you start dealing with things in a different way...but you must ask yourself ..can I do this..if you can then there is a chance you will continue the have this man in your life...if you find you can't get pass all this , then you must tell yourself you deserve so much better...and then you move on and find someone that you can have a good healthy relationship with.