CANT STAND MY PARENTS BEING DIVORCED HELP ME!!!!?

Question

My Parents divorced 9 years ago...because my dad found his high school sweetheart and then they got married....well my mom had no money and he just left us. he was a truck driver and usually gone for 8-10 weeks....

well he didnt come back and my mom found out that he found his hs sweetheart and divorced him (they divorced each other)

now its 9 years later and my dad is married to my step mom (i dont like her) and i have 2 step sisters and 2 step brothers.(i HATE that new family).

i get to vist my dad but its torture cuz they dont treat me like im welcome....

i want my parents back together so i dont have to keep swiching houses back and forth!!

i cry myself to sleep...im so depressed cuz i want my dad and mom TOGETHER not apart!!!

HELP

when i visit my dad i never see him anyways........HES ALWAYS WORKING

then he gets mad at me when i dont visit him

Answer 1

You want what was past - and you never got over that. If you continue to let it corrode at your soul, you'll end up in an abusive relationship when you are grown up.

You cannot turn back time and you cannot control the thoughts and feelings of other people. What you have described - IS your new reality.

So you can either see some good in it and adjust, or you can torture yourself and make yourself miserable for the rest of your life.

Which do you wish to choose?

Answer 2

Nine years?

Honey, you need to get over it, they will NEVER get back together. Maybe if you stop wishing for the impossible, you would be able to face the truth and move on.

Tell your dad you want to come only if he isn't working, and ask to please have him to yourself. The step-bros & sisters have him all the time, it is your right to see him without them.

Answer 3

i am sorry you are feeling this way

you need to understand that your parents are not getting back together  to start with .

the next thing is you need to talk with your dad and mother and tell them that you  don't like to go over to his house because you  don't feel welcome there . you need to tell him why you don't  feel welcome . and  because i hate  my step mother is not a  reason. you don't have to like who  your parents are with but you need to respect them.

about your step siblings .

well  you will never like them if you keep  telling yourself you don't .

it is not them as a person/ persons  it because you are jealous  that they live with your father and you don't . they have more of his time than you do .  it is not their fault it is your fathers and he needs to  help you through this .  

Answer 4

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