CBT - eating disorder - what do you think?

Question

I've been bulimic/anorexic for the past 8yrs......I've been seeing my clinical psychologist for the past yr and have made some good progress.

However in today sess, she mentioned 'how long do i think we should met!' I understand it from a 'need to move forward' point but part of me thinks that she is bored of seeing me.

When i left my sess i wrote a letter to myself and psychologist to explain the things i'm unable to discuss with her, it is very intense, profound and revealing.....

I guess my question is, should i carry on with my sessions and should i give her a copy of the letter pouring my heart and feelings out to her.

I don't want to come across as needy/seeking attension, hence the barrier with psychologist........so please be kind :)

Answer 1

It is normal for your therapist to verify if you still need to see her, but DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY!  She is not "bored" of seeing you, it is HER JOB to help you and if she is not helping you, or if she is making you feel needy or boring or anything negative and she does not address this after reading your letter, which you should definately give her, then you need to find a different therapist!

I suspect that she does not know how vulnerable her question made you feel, and I'm sure after she reads your letter she will want to clarify things with you and make sure to be helpful and supportive.  

Either way, don't let all the great work you have done go to waste because of someone else's attitude.  You deserve the best, so don't settle for anyone less!

Answer 2

I would highly recommend that you read or discuss the letter with her in session.

When you say, "part of me thinks that she is bored of seeing me" consider that you are jumping to conclusions or projecting your fears into her words. This is a common error in thinking and it will be really beneficial for you to explore it with her. This way you can discuss both of your feelings/thoughts related to your progress and goals for the future.