CHILD ABUSE?!?! Help please

Question

Is This Child Abuse??

My mom is always getting mad and i know she's bipolar cuz she went to this clinic place a few years back they told her that and she got really mad about it and left but everytime something bad happens she cusses me out slaps me with a belt or a switch and today she said if she didnt cool down that i would have " h**l to pay" when she got home. I was talking on my phone last night and she got mad but all teenagers talk on their phones past midnight and she has never had a problem with it till now and ive been doing that for 4 years so what should i do she grounded me and took my phone away and i scared when she gets home things might get worse. I mean what point does it become child abuse exactly and what should i do about it?

Well see my dad is okay with it...and he's all like " you should forgive yer mom cuz jesus forgave us" and i im like okay whatever still there is no excuse and he claims he is working with my mom and that to figure things out well he's been doing that for a year now its not working and i cant move out cuz im not 18 yet but my mom throws me against the wall and stuff and my dad just doesnt want to believe me sometimes but i dont wanna leave my frineds and dont want to go live with my grandparents.. cuz they have enough to take care of they couldnt handle me i dont think and i think it would cause more trouble

Answer 1

Well in your case the first time she had done it to you, it maybe was just a lesson. But if she has been doing it a lot that leads to abuse and throwing you against the wall? Sorry that is a little over doing it. Maybe go to a someone you could talk to, like a therapist. Also keep a diary with the date; time; and damage, so pin point every second and bring it to someone.

I know it may be scary but like you dad said forgive her but let her know that it is still wrong. You know? Also talk to her about what she did.

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Answer 2

Tough one.  I am sure you only want what is best for your mom but if you are being hurt and are this upset all of the time, dad wont listen, etc... then unfortunately you (like so many other kids) will need to make a choice.  If your mom needs meds (and they can really help)  someone has to help her get them.  It is NOT fair for you to live like that. You need to talk to someone.  ONLY YOU can decide just how bad it is there.   Try taking your dad aside and telling him again what is going on.  If he still won't listen - go to your grandparents anyway.  Otherwise try your church or crisis hotline or Aunt or someone else that may talk to your dad on your behalf.

The longer you wait the worse it will get.

There are people that can help you.

Bless and prayers be with you.