COULD I really want this or would I be "running away" from my current life? (regarding moving)?

Question

k. I'll try to keep this short.

I lived back east until I was 15 when I was dragged out to the west coast. I've complained about it for 8 years. Well 7... I didn't mind the first year but it all went down hill after that.

I have wanted to move back east for about 2 years now and feel it would make me happier even though there's not much for jobs and not much to do... not to mention the main part of my family (parents) would stay in BC... ANYWAY my mom says I only want to move back there because I was happy but only because I was a kid and could be happy here if I tried and stopped dwelling on all the negative things about it.

Would moving back be a cop out or could it really and truly be calling to me??? How do I decide this sort of thing?? It's a big decision!!!

Answer 1

I think you should enjoy wherever you are.

you have a long life ahead of you to move bck east, so for now enjoy the west.

Answer 2

you're mother makes a legitimate point.  you have been living in the past, and you can't get it back.  living in the past/pining for something that is gone does not work for anybody. if you have a bad close minded attitude you wont allow yourself to have a good time.   BUT, if you don't like BC there are probably reasons for that.  somehow it is not for you.  since you have thought about this for so long you must want it and it would really be a mistake not to go.  you should go and see for yourself.    try living there half a year.  if you go to a big city there are plenty of productive things you could do. even if they don't fit your major plan, just find something and do it.  

if you go to the east coast expecting it to be just how you remembered you will be disappointed.  you might find you don't like it.  but at least you'd of tried, done something productive, experienced something new.  if it isn't as awesome as you hope, keep looking.  going out on your own is how you find the real inner you.  in the end it is about what in you, not around you.

Answer 3

Sometimes there's a reason you can't get something out of your head. Sometimes you just have to follow that nagging voice even if no one else agrees with you.

Answer 4

I agree with your mom. Your happiness does not depend of the place where you are. Your happiness has to come from within yourself.

Answer 5

It doesn't sound like a cop out to me. If you are not happy where you are then you should move back for a trial period and see how it goes. If you are happy when you move back then it was worth it in the end. If you move back and hate it then maybe you need to reevaluate your life. I suggest you try to find out why you are so unhappy where you are now before you decide to move. My advice: Ask God!! Prayer always works for me. :) Good luck and God bless.