CUSTODY PROBLEMS! Don't know what to do :(?

Question

so im 14 years old, and ive been told that i now have a choice of which parent i want to be with.

so if i want to be with my mom, and ONLY my mom, is it just an automatic win for her in court? or can my dad fight to have custody...?

i dont want to be with my dad AT ALL. aaghh.

so is it an automatic win for my mom if i only want to be with her??

Answer 1

A court may still require you to spend time with your father but will let you live with your mom.

Answer 2

I think that it is so unfair to lay this on your shoulders.  I would personally tell the courts that you want to be with your mom but still be able to visit your dad (like 1 weekend a month or so).  You might hate your dad but you probably don't want to completely lose him.  Talk to your mom and I think she will probably be more understanding than you think.  good luck!

Answer 3

no, it's not automatic.  There may be things about your mom that can be used against her in court, that proves to the courts she's an unfit parent.

you will be asked, yes.  But the judge will decide.  they will give the parent who doesn't have custody visits though, in which you should take advantage of

Answer 4

If you want to be with your mom then so be it.. But give your dad a chance unless he is abusive or have done something terribly wrong you just may be going trough a phase where you don't like your dad so much now, do you love your dad? I bet he loves you very much, or he would not be fighting for custody of you. Choose your mom if you want to but still give your dad a chance to get to know you and you him.. Good luck.

Answer 5

Tell your guardian ad litem or whoever has asked your opinion, what your opinion is.  It will be taken under advisement by the judge who will determine, based on hearing all sides, how the custody arrangement will work.  

Answer 6

You can voice your opinion and the Judge will take your decision under advisement and weigh it in against all other factors and any objections and if he decides its in your best interest, then youll be living with your mom and visiting your Dad at times. Nothing is ever automatic in court so you just have to prove your reason why you want to be with your mom and then pray its good enough to win over the Judge. Good luck

Answer 7

At least you have the option to choose.

When I was 3 I used to cry when I was away from my mom, my dad used to say I could choose who I wanted to be with when I was 13.

When I turned 13 he said I would never choose.

Big Surprise.

I'm 15 now and If I wanted to start something I could ask my mom to take my dad to court and I could say I wanted to be with mom.

They would probably lean more towards me since I am older now and I know what I want.

They will probably listen to you.

Good luck =)

Much Love.

Emilie <3

Answer 8

yes your dad can fight but you don't want to be with him so they won't force it