Calling a step-mom by mom.?

Question

When i was about three my parents split up and a year or so later my dad my my now step mom. She is one of the nicest people in the world! my parents are pretty young and so is she. My dad and my step-mom have been together for about seven years and are married. My step brother and some of my friends keep asking me why i don't call her mom. Is it really wrong that it feels like i'm replacing my real mom who is very much in my life? Please help.

Answer 1

you don't have to call her mom to show her love... this is coming from someone who is now a stepmom and was raised by a step dad.  You can show appreciation and respect and that is all she cares about.  You sound very lucky!!

Answer 2

i feel the exact same way but just call her by her name it might make ur mom feel bad but i feel the ame way good luck

Answer 3

Just explain that's she's simply not your Mom. Say you love her and respect her, but you do have a mother, and she will always be "Mom".

And no, it's not wrong to avoid anything that feels like you're replacing your Mom. She is your mother and it's important that you don't lose that relationship.

Answer 4

Understandably you may not want to call her "Mom" since that is your term of endearment for your birth mother. But if you like her and she treats you nice, like a daughter, just calling her by her given name may seem a bit unacceptable too.  Could you find some other sort of a 'term of endearment' for her?  

I am not adopted, and so don't have experience in such. But I sort of think there are different terms for "father", "dad", "pops", "daddy", etc., etc. Maybe something similar for her?