Calling all moms need help with kids sleep problems?

Question

ok so i am 3 weeks away from having my 3rd babay, but my 4 year old and my 18 month old are both still sleeping in bed with us, they have never sleep alone ever,. but i am despret, my husbend and i are both almost falling out of our king size bed and the is no room to add the baby!

please help how can i get them in their beds for the night, fast and without making them feel forgottn,

last time i tried my 4 year old she cried untill she pucked, and then for a week askd me why i left her and why i didn't help her when she was crying!. it broke my heart and i felt like c**p after, but im being kicked and getting no sleep not to mention there is no room for all of us, i need my rest back and my husbend, pleas help..... it is hard for me t be conststant cause i work over night 3 days a week, and im worried their day will give up to soon and let them slide, he never could here them cry

i need help i gets so bad that sometimes just to have breathing room i go and sleep in their

Answer 1

Develop a routine. Take her to bed, and sit beside her while reading her a bedtime story. Put on some soft sounding music, I like to use Kenny G, do not leave the room until she falls asleep for the first couple of weeks, then gradually move your chair a little further from her bed every week until you are out of her room. Just don't deviate from the routine no matter what.

Answer 2

I would put your 18 month old in a crib with a crib tent and put him/her in there close the door and let him/her cry to sleep! i know its tough we had to do it and it took about a week and then no more crying but we started with ou daughter at 11 months and now she is 19 months and tells us she needs to go night night!

for your 4 year old do the same in a toddler/twin bed!  and it might seem mean but i know plenty of parents who have done it. put a lock on the outside of the 4 year olds door and lock her in so she cant open the door in the middle of the night and ransack your house while you are sleeping!  and please break the new baby out of this habbit sooner and you and hubby will sleep more comfy! when my daughter was 8 weeks sleeping all night i put her in her bassinet/playpen and she would sleep all night next to our bed ! good luck with the transition you will have some very sleepless nights~!

Answer 3

If you want to keep the family bed, you'll need to make extra room.  Do you have room for a twin or full size bed next to your king?  What about sleeping pallets in the same room, but not attached to your bed?  

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Answer 4

you have to be strong and move them to their own beds. Yes they will cry a bit but things cannot go on as they are. You're not abandoning them. You can check on them a bit until they fall asleep. And the baby too will eventually have to get used to sleeping in his own bed. Not only are you not getting good sleep, but they may not be either...if you move around or make a noise, it can wake them up. It's better if everyone sleep separately.

Answer 5

A friend of mine had the same problem.  She made "special" pallets (beds) for her girls on the floor right beside mommy & Daddy's bed. It seemed to work for her because they weren't out of the room so they didn't feel alone. They eventually made it into their own rooms but this helped ease hem into it. And there is more room for everyone now :)

Congrats! Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 6

I saw this exact story on Nanny 911. She made them go in their beds and the little girl threw the same kind of fit. Nanny made the mom kindly and gently stick to her guns and rewarded them greatly for doing the right thing (i.e. sleeping in their own beds). It took time but it worked. Don't expect an overnight fix. It's going to be tough at first. Maybe for even a week. You'll have to undo what has been done but with love (first) and perseverance you can do it.

Answer 7

try sitting in their room untill they fall asleep just to make them feel more comfortable about it...idk wat else to tell you ive never been too great with kids...but ur gettin it from a 15 yr old perspective