Can't cope with my boyfriend staring or being attracted to other women. Advice?
I have read on so many web pages that men (who are in relationships) staring at other women or being attracted to other women is completely normal and that any woman who gets annoyed with this is crazy. I have been with my BF for 3 years; we have been living together 2.5 years. We are both 25. At the beginning of our relationship he was besotted with me, I really knew he fancied me so much and had no doubts about him fancying other girls but over time I have noticed this disappear. He says he loves me, and will never cheat etc and he does do a lot for me, but he stares at and flirts with other women inc his ex. He then lies about it and gets caught out which makes me even more suspicious (as to what else is he hiding). He doesn’t do it all the time but when I say it to him, he denies it or says he is just being nice, or he does it for no reason! We fight a lot about this. I cannot accept that he says he loves me and I am the one he is with not another girl but….it is normal for him to be attracted to other women! I do get a lot of attention from other men and I am pretty successful but it really hurts me and makes me feel so unattractive and ugly + stresses me out so much. I want to get married soon but he says he is not ready + he can’t get married when we fight this much. I know a lot of people will say that it's is normal for men to stare and find other women attractive, but if that is the case I really don’t know if I can be with any man. I just can’t cope with it. I am so confused, I really love my BF and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I am only 25, I just think if he is staring and flirting now what will he be like when I am 35 married with two kids?? I don’t know whether I should just leave him or put up with it even though it’s driving me insane! Any advice
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