Can't get along with team mate?

Question

I have been on the school sport team for 3 years now, and since the beginning one of my team mates has been a jerk. I have always been nice to him, and have tried to confront him, but he doesn't seem to care. It is now to the point that I don't even want to be on the team anymore, because I just can't stand being around him. I have tried to talk to him but he doesn't listen. I have tried everything from, being nice to ignoring him. Does anyone have an idea on how to stop this? I don't want to talk to the coach about it either.

Answer 1

First, there's more than just the 2 of you on the sports team. That gives you a lot of options here:

1.  Everytime he does something jerky to you, do something nice for one of your other teammates or compliment one of them in some way.   It's remarkable how you can take his negative energy and convert it into postive energy.  Instead of fuming about his latest jerkiness, you'll be light years beyond that with the good feeling you'll have over doing something nice for someone else.  (I've told a lot of other people about this technique and they've all come back to me astounded by how well it worked.)

2.  If he's antagonized other teammates, then organize an intervention with him, you, and them...and maybe a coach.  In the intervention, tell him how his conduct is impacting the team's cameraderie and performance.

3. If it's only with you, then instead of confronting him, invite him to do some stuff with you.  If old enough, go to a sports bar...preferably one with interactive sports arcade games.  After a few drinks, he'll loosen up and let down that wall he's built up.  Do this a few times and you'll become buddies.  Isn't there a pro sports team you both like, at least?   Take him to a game and genuinely be patient with him and give him the benefit of the doubt.  

If it's just with you, he obviously has misconceptions about who you are.  You need to get him to change those and that can only be done in a non-confrontational way.

Answer 2

Are his actions about the game or personal. We have to learn to live with the jerks too. It will be that way at work or anywhere you deal with people. Concentrate more on the sport and less on what he is doing if possible.

Don't let one person cause you to quit, that would only hurt you. Talk to a coach or someone if you can't resolve this yourself.  

Answer 3

You should not worry about this person, cause they are obviously a jerk. You should focus on school and your education so you can become whatever you want. :-) Good luck, loser