Can't get wife pregnant, urologist is very negative and didn't give me a reason for my infertility?

Question

Went to the urologist, he tells me I have sperm but then he tells me, I only have 8 SPERM? I know when I ejaculate there is allot of s***n so how can I only have 8 sperm? He tells me, they are all dead and you can't have kids. I ask him what is the problem? His answer is, I don't know. WTF? He don't know? What is he doing there? I thought he was supposed to give me a clue of what might could be wrong but no. he also crushes my dreams of giving my wife and I a child by telling me there is no hope for me. How can there be no hope when he don't know what the problem is? Maybe is I have blockage or something, I ask him. He tells me no that's not it. He didn't even do an xray on me, just felt me up and said I looked physically fine. Don't smoke, don't drink, healthy(5'9 170), never had any diseases so I'm really confused and upset at the moment. This doctor lives about 20 minutes away so I had to wack it and then take the sample to the office myself and it was just one sample. I am 27 years old and have been trying for baby almost 2 years, what should i do? No sperm donor or adoption, I want my own child. Should I get second opinion? Thanks for any help.

Answer 1

I would try for a second opinion. Make sure you follow their directions to a T, also, if you just have a low sperm count, having s*x everyday can increase the quality and quanity:)

Answer 2

Go to a fertility specialist!  My husband went to a urologist and he didn't do anything for us except put my husband through unnecessary surgery!  A fertility dr will help you understand what's going on.  We tried to conceive for 3 yrs, than went to a specialist.  He has a low sperm count. Maybe a lot of your sperm died off in the trip to the dr office. My husband always "whacked it" at the office for the fear he would kill the sperm. We ended up just getting our BFP from our 2nd round of IVF after 4 years of ttc.  It was a long, hard road, but I really think it made us closer. If you have 8 living sperm, then you should be able to do IVF. As long as they're alive, they can inject your sperm into the egg to fertilize it. It sounds like your urologist is a d**k. Drop him! Good luck!

Answer 3

I would go with a second opinion.however one thing I realized was when we stopped trying and had less stress is when I got pregnant.Also you may have to try invitro(?sp) fertalization

Answer 4

Male infertility can't be treated as easily as female infertile. having a large quantity of s***n doesn't mean that there are any viable sperm in it. If the Doc said you only have 8 sperm your basically infertile. You should be producing millions of sperm not just couple. The only option of having a child will have to be a sperm donor or adoption and as you have ruled them out you will have to except that you will not have biological children.

Being a father is more than just being able to produce sperm; that is only the physiological side. A father supports loves and cares for his child. If you want to have achild put a side your pride and consider sperm donor; it will still be your child.

Answer 5

That sucks.  Definitely get a second opinion.  Goto a reproductive endocrinologist (fertility specialist).

It is possible to father a child if you have even ONE good sperm. The procedure is called ICSI - one sperm is used to fertilize the egg. Typically, more than one egg is fertilized so there are more chances.  If there aren't any good sperms in the s***n, they can extract from the source (testes) as well.  However, you do need ONE good sperm - they cannot all be dead obviously.

there are many causes for male infertility and it can be genetic as well. whatever the cause might be, male infertility is not something that can be easily cured (it is not a blockage issue here).

Good luck.

Answer 6

Second opinions won't hurt.  But here's my suggestion, do all the things that encourage the growth of sperm (no hot tubs or hot baths, were boxers if you are wearing breifs, zinc suppliments, anything else that is PROVEN to help increase sperm quality.  Do that for three months (that's how long it takes us guys to grow them guys) and then get a second opinion.

Beyond that, there are other advanced treatments that you'd need to see a fertility specialist, not just a urologist.  I've heard of situations where a man had almost zero sperm, but was able to get his wife pregnant via ICSI and IVF.  Basically, if there are any live sperm in your testicals, it's possible to surgically remove a sperm from your testicals and use ICSI to vertilize and egg from your wife via IVF.  However, if this should be an option for you, it's going to be highly advanced and not cheap.

That should at least give you a start at researching what can be done for your situation.