Can't stand my life at all.??

Question

I am 15 yrs old. My mom is just one of the most annoying people ever. She thinks that i am all in self-pity when i really just am depressed. She was telling me this persons situation our family friends how the dad walked out on them and now the mom has a weird boyfriend. I jokingly said my situation is worse and now she is all mad at me. She takes everything so seriously and is always yelling at me. My dad drinks a LOT and is always kinda in a fog and if hes not hes watching t.v. or like forcing me to do exercise which i don't like to do. I barely have any friends and the ones i do i have to force them to do things with me. I just don't understand im a really nice person and am always getting stepped on. Any advice about the whole situation?

Answer 1

"I can't stand my life? " >nva say that ...repeating that is gona b harmful



well think ur dad wants to care for u... finding out gud things gona work...

although they r not really gud to u.. but u can create a bond...by caring for them...

keeping urslf busy is another way to come out of negative thoughts..

if ur mom has a boys friend.... ahh!! ask sumone else..here in my country ...once married people jss think for a family, nothing more...

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"""""Believe in urself.. I think u have a lot of  capabilities to think and observe...."""""

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care

GOD BLESS.

Answer 2

I understand that your life isn't a piece of cake, but here's the thing the people who keep fighting through rough times are the ones in power and success positions. It's hard but thats the truth. There are times where everyone feels down and wants to give up but we have to keep fighting. Explain to your mom how you feel and if she won't listen then talk to someone who will. A school counsler or a trustworthy friend. Also look at the positives in life. That will get you through the rough times. My experience is nothing like ours but as a freshman in hs I felt like I was down in the dumps because my teachers weren't helping me and I felt stupid despite being an a student. I had a rough yoear because I didn't look at the positives as oftten as i should have. I wish you the best. Your dad should also enter a rehab program. I hope everything works out for you. KEEP FIGHTING!! You will make it through these hard times. I will pray for you Goodbless.

Answer 3

Your a typical teenager that thinks the world is after them, its not, open your eyes.

Answer 4

I remember when I was 15. Now I am 31 and wish i could be 15 again. My teen years were the best and worst parts of my life. It's tough being a teen and their are times when you get down on life. I used to listen to music alot to vent my frustrations. Try to find some kind of release that works for you. Just remember things will get better. I even get down on myself now sometimes but I make myself look at the good things in life. Don't ever worry if your fat. I used to struggle with thinking I was over weight. But I know I'm fine the way I am. You have to look at your many good qualities and not focus on your insecurities. The world now makes women think they need to be a toothpick to look good. It's actually disgusting. Who wants to look at a skeleton? Women are supposed to have curves. Who wants a stick figure like a man? Don't let your mother get you down. I'm 5'5, 190 pds and look dam good. I'm sure you will make new friends in school this year and do fun things together. As for your dad i hope he can slow down on the drinking. My fiance's brother is an alcoholic at only 28. It's a tough situation to deal with. I hope you start to cheer up and enjoy life more. Keep your chin up things will get better. Take Care and Good Luck!

Answer 5

be my friend... dont worry

Im 13 and my mom takes EVERYTHING serious she said u cant have this beer in the fridge (worry wart) and i jjokingly said "AWW man i wanted some!" and laughed she just got so mad!  

Answer 6

wow your really young to be going thru that...but have you told your dad to stop drinking? if not you should he may get mad at you but he needs to face it too or either its going to turn to a problem and affect you.

And about you mom well i think they are all the same cuz my mom is like that too but i just ignore her =]

You shouldn't be forcing your friends because then one day they are going to decide not to be your friends no more, and if you don't like doing stuff by yourself then this is a good time to be independent [that's what i'v been doing]

Well i don't know what more to say jus good luck in your life to what ever choice you make! =]

Answer 7

what i would have to say it sounds like your very mature for being 15..

but tell your mom when she starts yelling at you. your just taking all your anger and frustration out on me i'm not going to be your little venting person. i tell that to my dad all the time and he never has anything to come back with. and another thing find a nice guy (a boyfriend) to talk to someone you are comfortable talking to it always helps to have someone there that you can go to... i hope this helps

Answer 8

I felt that way growing up too. People are always stepping on really nice people. Stop being so nice and fight fire with fire. Just because you are nice doesnt mean let people step all over you. You may find in fact that being assertive gains you more respect. Respect is not the same as being liked. I wish someone told me that growing up. I was always a people pleaser and was one of the most miserable person on Earth.

Your mom was probably sensitive because maybe she feels you have had it a lot better than her growing up. She yells because maybe she was yelled at growing up. Your Dad probably doesnt know or understand how his drinking is effecting you and his relationship. Maybe you should bring it up one day while exercising. Tell him you like to exercise with him but would like to maybe go see a movie with him instead. Parents always feel the need to control, because they are lacking control in other aspect of their lives. You can't change them you can only change you.

Keep your head up. This will pass, I know it hard. Its better to understand and go through this stuff while you are young. Concentrate on school, that will be your way out of a bad situation. Educating yourself.  

Answer 9

Get out of that family life and start developing your own. Get a social life and make ends meat with yourself. Get a job to get away from the negative environment.

Answer 10

really sorry. You just need to find the right friends and people. They will come, I know how all that works. there will always be worse, and better times. you just have to cope with them. Good luck!

Answer 11

Ok, time to stand up for yourself! I understand what you are going through- this past year i had my heart stepped on twice, my new friends at my new school where I newly moved to are b*tches that mock me and I ditched them. Oh and the guy I'm in love with has a girlfriend.

Yay me! Not.

Okay, so what you need to do is get out there, and don't be shy. It's hard sometimes, but be nice and sweet to anyone who is the same to you. If they aren't, ditch 'em.

Your parents don't seem to understand you, (do any of them get us these days lol) but don't let them get you down. You sound like a really good person so believe that and try not to be 'too much' around your mom, and for your dad? Well, steer clear to avoid exercises?

Don't try too hard. Be yourself. I hate it if someone calls me more than twice a day unless we NEED to talk lol. And try not to force people in to doing things.

Never ever turn to the Dark Side. It only makes life worse. I've been through so much and have passed it all up.

Life will improve. Never lose faith---it's all we have ;]

Luvs kate<3  

Answer 12

I'm kind of in the same situation, but my dad doesn't drink and I do have some good friends. (Im just depressed and my family has no idea whats going on.)

I would suggest you either

A. Go to counseling or

B. Pray like heck and be determined to get through it. Find a hobby you enjoy. (For me, it's Karate)

Answer 13

1.  If you think your life is ****, go walk down the streets of New Orleans...  Or go over to Ethiopia...  People there would kill their own family to have another family that has shelter and would pay attention to them even if they were treated bad...  Your a teenager, you have your whole life ahead of you.

2.  Stick up for yourself!  Your a human being with rights and you deserve to be treated right!

3.  Your mom is pissed because she is working her *** off to feed you and keep you sheltered and you apparently are showing little respect for her.  

4.  Millions of teens go through the same thing you do every day.  They are living, and the ones who kill themselves are the weak ones that don't deserve a good life.  

Suck it up.  Have more self respect and others will show you respect.  Pretty simple theory.  I'm interested to see how you would act if you were your mom and you had to deal with a kid like you.  

I grew up in military school.  You think thats fun?  ******* enjoy living in a world where you can see your family.

Answer 14

i feel like that sometime... depresed. but just think... your almost 18! almost time to MOVE OUT!!!:)

Answer 15

im really sorry....my parents are way annoying...liike they both judge me everytime they see me...they glare at me....and try to show me love but i dont think they even know what that it....and they ignore me...they never hug me...or tell me they care...im basically on my own...i have some friends that care about me...but thats not what i need...dont get me wrong i need friends but i really want to be loved by my parents....

i can kinda relate to your situation...

if you want to be my friend...i will be yours....(email me) : ) im 14 by the way!!

Answer 16

Keep in mind that your life will not always be this way - in a few short years you will have the freedom to get out on your own. The most constructive thing you can do is make a plan so that when that time comes you'll be ready - set goals for yourself that are realistic and write down specific things you will need to do to achieve those goals.

As far as feeling that you have no real friends - sometimes when things are bad we can tend to feel that everything is always bad - all the time - it's a common thought process known as catastrophic thinking (I'm not sure if you do this or not - I just find it hard to believe that someone as nice as you doesn't have any real friends). I've included a link that I hope helps.

http://www.medicinenet.com/37085

Answer 17

I totally know that you won't want to hear this, because I'm sure that you already have plenty of times. It's most likely hormones and part of being a teenager. I know, it's nice right? It sucks. All I can really tell you to do is get comfortable in your own skin. Believe in yourself and all that you can do. Ok?

<3

Answer 18

you dad FORCES you to exercise? Thats weird... I would say Stop talking to your mom. Stop talking to your dad. Dont associate with people that you have to force to be with you. Join after school clubs. Explore your talents and get a job.  

Answer 19

You can change your situation little by little.  The farthest away that big change can be is college.  You can go somewhere kind of far away (not too far though, because you actually will want to drive home sometimes), and everyone you meet in the beginning wants to be social and friendly, because everyone is trying to make friends.  That is where some of your best friends can come from any way.

As for your friends now - I don't know the whole situation.  I'm sure you are a very nice person, but you said you are depressed.. maybe you are in a pessimistic spot, and they want to be around people who are more upbeat and optimistic?  It's hard to speculate.  People like to be around people who are fun and make them happy.  Make a stronger effort to be in a better mood, joke around, be more outgoing.  Work on meeting new friends too.  If there is anything you're interested in that you could join, sign up.  Next year you'll be able to get a job, and you can get go where other people your age work.  That will also get you out of the house!

Sorry, can't change your parents.  Hopefully some day your mom won't seem so annoying, and you'll have a better relationship.

--also, if being overweight makes you more shy or you're not comfortable - you're old enough to choose what you eat.  Forget what your mom does.  Eat healthier, or just smaller portions, and you'll look how you want to look.  Maybe you'll open up a little more and feel more confident???

Answer 20

As it is now, it sounds like you'll need to deal with the home situation at least for a few more year.  From what I read, your situation is not the worst, and others in worst situation than yours have survived and is doing very well today.  Learning to live with your current situation will only make you stronger, and a few years from now you'll ask yourself, what "what were I thinking,".  You really need a support.  A good friend who is qualified to help you.  Try talking to a minister of religion.

At school, participate in sports, clubs etc.  Try focus on your studies.    It will be difficult but try very hard.  Group studies is good.  Keep yourself occupied by doing chores around the house.