Can't take husband's bad mood?

Question

I've been married to my husband long enough to know how he works, and I've realized that if I'm in a bad mood it puts him in a bad mood too. The only thing is that I'll wake up happy the next day and he will stay surly for weeks. Normally, I can deal when this happens, and realize that it's my fault anyways. Right now though, I'm 8 months pregnant and on bed rest. I have an autoimmune disease that is normally under control, but right now it is flaring too. Yes, I've been in a bad mood the past few days. It's not like I'm yelling and screaming at him or anything, I'm just not very cheerful. Well, it started last night that he was in a rotten mood too, and now this morning he is sulking around. I just can't take this right now. I really need his support. Why can't he see that this has nothing to do with him? What can I say to get him back to his normal self?

Answer 1

You can't change who he is overnight.  You can explain to him that you being in a foul mood has nothing to do with him and everything to do with bedrest/pregnancy issue but it might not help.  Tell him you've noticed he gets in a bad mood when you are, but ask him if he minds cheering up as you really need him to be strong now.  

Answer 2

Ever hear of the ole saying Kill em with Kindness? Well maybe you are in a bad mood, but you got to keep yourself cool and just say "Baby, come over here and give me a hug, I can make it through my day with a hug from my man" Hugs are better than drugs, give him a overdose today!

So give him what you are wanting from him. Love can melt that bad mood. Don't take much work to be kind to one another. Just try it.

Answer 3

If your partner was in a bad mood of course it's gonna make the other moody too. Try not to be so moody.

Answer 4

move on

Answer 5

You two need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk.  Spell it all out for each other.  There is no reason for him to be in a pissy mood just because you are... or visa versa.  

Answer 6

show some maturityy and stop doing what you don't want him to do .

Answer 7

I'm not sure though, probably he's stressed about his work. How about talking things out in a nice way with him, maybe he'll feel that you're not in a bad mood and that makes him feel better.

Or another way is to ask if he's okay or if he needs a listening ear. Has he been stressed lately about work or something else? Sometimes you have to let him be alone for awhile. People always need a time on their own. Hopefully he'll let go of whatever negative things he's been keeping and then he'll be back to normal again. This process usually takes up to a few days(from my experience).

Hope that worked. All the best(:

Answer 8

Just give him a warm hug,a sweet smile and say you are sorry for your bad mood and tht to make up for it,you wish to go for a candle-lit dinner at a cosy restaurant together. Tht shud work...gud luck!

Answer 9

Mine's the same way. I'm apparently supposed to  be void of emotions.

Tell him to buck up, be a man and that you need his support not his sulky attitude.

In other words be honest. Don't get mad, don't get all emotional. Tell him, You're pregnant and on bedrest, you have every reason to be miserable! Tell him he's not going to get sunshine and rainbows out of you every day, but that doesn't mean he has to sulk around for weeks on end.

Answer 10

without being hateful to him, why don't you just tell him that you need his support right now?

Answer 11

There is nothing you can say; he needs a sexual release.  As you are pregnant it might not be tops on your list but if you can manage a hand job or ******** it will take care of the situation and put a smile back on his face.

A second option is to suggest that he go buy some beer and watch some internet p**n and m********e.  

Or you can turn it into some big drama or a mystery, with other diversions and talks.  You could go out to dinner like someone suggested, or you could have a circus come to town.  And then after the circus when he gets home, he'll get some beer and watch some p**n and m********e.  

Trust me, he just wants you to get him off.  That's it.  Sorry it has to be that simple.